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Original poster

To detest a shopper in the queue behind me?

71 replies

Menopausalcraziness · 11/06/2021 19:17

So, I’m in the store where you’ll find kevin the carrot and there are lots of folk queuing to pay for their shopping.

Anyway, behind me is a chap (1) joined by a different chap (2) and they begin chit chatting away.
Chap 1 asks chap 2 what he’s up to after getting his 3 items to which he replies, “going home to my miserable wife”.

Straight away I can’t stand him and i’m very tempted to give him a piece of my mind?

AIBU to feel so enraged on her behalf, bearing in mind I don’t know either of them or am I unexpectedly hormonal?!! Confused

OP posts:
massiveportion · 11/06/2021 19:18

What if she IS miserable?

vodkaredbullgirl · 11/06/2021 19:19

Oh dear lol, probably miserable as they have to live with them having to watch 2020.

miltonj · 11/06/2021 19:19

Well she might be a miserable wife! You don't know the context here. But I do get unreasonably annoyed with other people shopping sometimes so I know where you're coming from!

NotAnotherPushyMum · 11/06/2021 19:19

She might be miserable.

Ifeelmuchlessfat · 11/06/2021 19:19

She probably is being married to him…

SmidgenofaPigeon · 11/06/2021 19:20

You’re allowed to say Aldi Confused

Nesbo · 11/06/2021 19:20

Would you have felt angry at a woman complaining about going home to her miserable husband? If not you presumably think all women are saints and mustn’t be criticised.

MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously · 11/06/2021 19:20

Not a nice thing to say - snacks of washing one's dirty linen in public. There should be the expectation of loyalty between spouses, such that they don't bitch about each other to outsiders. But it may have been an 'in' joke. Or she might actually be horrible to live with.

MrsMoastyToasty · 11/06/2021 19:21

She's probably glad she's got the house to herself for half an hour

Nicolastuffedone · 11/06/2021 19:22

Maybe she is miserable.

SmidgenofaPigeon · 11/06/2021 19:24

He might just be being a prick but my friend’s wife is REALLY miserable. Honestly I’ve never met a person more joyless. When we met at the pub for a meal a couple of weekends ago she brought a book, and really didn’t talk to anybody, and drank suds water, and told off my friend for having a pudding, because there was ‘no need’.

SmidgenofaPigeon · 11/06/2021 19:24

*SODA water

MiddleParking · 11/06/2021 19:30

@SmidgenofaPigeon

He might just be being a prick but my friend’s wife is REALLY miserable. Honestly I’ve never met a person more joyless. When we met at the pub for a meal a couple of weekends ago she brought a book, and really didn’t talk to anybody, and drank suds water, and told off my friend for having a pudding, because there was ‘no need’.
She sounds unintentionally hilarious Grin
Original poster
Menopausalcraziness · 11/06/2021 19:32

@Ifeelmuchlessfat that was what was the tip of my tongue!!
@Nesbo, no I think we all have moments but to shout it out wasn’t appropriate IMO
@SmidgenofaPigeon Shows how lucky I am to not have any friends like this!
@MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously this is what I think but the tone in his voice and lack of cheeky grin on his face didn’t suggest it was banter!

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lanthanum · 11/06/2021 19:34

Is it possible that "miserable" was by way of explaining why he was buying chocolate, wine and a RomCom for her?
(Ever the optimist, here...)

ApolloandDaphne · 11/06/2021 19:39

I have a friend who would absolute say that but he would be jesting with his mate! He really adores his wife and has been caring for her whilst she has been very ill. I guess what I am saying is that you have no context for this throwaway statement.

myfuckingfreezer · 11/06/2021 19:42

How do you know he hasn't got it really hard at home and is in a bad place due to his wife?

PuppyMonkey · 11/06/2021 19:45

YABU to be on MN in the queue for the tills in Aldi. Shock

Concentrate on the task in hand, it’s a very skilled process paying for your shopping in Aldi.

Blankspace101 · 11/06/2021 19:46

I’d be miserable if my husband brought home something from that supermarket.

Borgonzola · 11/06/2021 19:47

I was having this conversation with a friend the other day. There seems to be a real enduring trend among men of a Certain Age to act like they really just don't like their wives. If I were the wife I'd be mortified.

1forAll74 · 11/06/2021 19:48

I love to hear all the interesting chit chat in shop queues. as in the good, the bad,and the ugly, it can be quite funny at times.

Growuppeople · 11/06/2021 19:50

Well my DH is alway miserable should I keep that to myself in case someone overhears? Probably just wanted to have a moan, everyone does it 🤷‍♀️

PinkiOcelot · 11/06/2021 19:50

I can’t believe you give a fuck about some random bloke calling his wife miserable.

Nesbo · 11/06/2021 19:51

It’s interesting as your response could have been sympathy - poor guy going home to a miserable spouse, how awful. But because he is male you are identifying with his wife, so feel defensive and choose not to believe him.

You might actually have far more in common with him than with his wife, but on the basis of sex alone you sided with her.

Hallyup6 · 11/06/2021 19:52

It's ok, it'll probably cheer her up when she hears about her husband's encounter with the busybody in the supermarket queue.