Children's parties RSVP

[Fieldsoftripe9]

Sent out party invites to my just turned 4 year olds nursery bubble 4 weeks ago. I didn't give an rsvp deadline. Didn't hear back from 4 of the families... fair enough!

Party is tomorrow. Yesterday I had a text from one of the parents saying yes, they can come. The kid has multiple severe allergies... ok, fair enough.

Been out to buy all the food and party bag crap etc today. Then just now had a text from one of the parents saying her child can attend but can she bring her other child along as too young to be left alone.

Is this normal? I would never leave it so late to rsvp. Am I being unreasonable to be miffed they left it so late?

I'm probably going to have to say no now, I have agreed to other siblings coming as I didn't hear back from them and assumed they weren't comimg so had the extra space (max 30 in the garden)

Yes it’s normal for people to be so rude.

I don’t hear from people at all sometimes,

Always put a deadline. Ive had people ring on the day of the party asking if they can come.

People who said yes who then just don’t turn up.

I don’t find asking to bring siblings offensive. I was in that same boat as my husband works Saturdays. If it was at a soft play I’d just pay for my other child to get it and buy them a meal when the invited one went off to eat etc. If my Mum or sister weren’t around, before confirming attendance I’d just explain and say not to worry if it was a problem I’d decline the whole invitation and it was fine.

@Blackhawkdown2020

Having been stitched up by non replies turning up and an additional 7!siblings at a soft play party and discovering the parents had asked reception that they be added to the list and then being asked to pay for them by the soft play centre I now leave strict instructions with reception that only the names on the list are being paid for by me and any others will have to be paid for by the person bringing them. Ditto the catering. Some people really do take the piss.

Yes you quickly learn after the first event I found.

Subsequent times we hired the venue as exclusive use and the reception had a name list and no extras could be admitted.

It’s not fair on the birthday child to have uninvited guests turn up who they didn’t invite and are different ages, not known to them etc.

If everyone on MN agrees it’s crap and rude, then who are all these parents we talk of?

FYI I’d be so tempted to write
“So sorry as I didn’t hear from you and the parties tomorrow I let the space go to someone else”
Maybe theyll learn!

Some RSVP and don’t turn up
Some don’t RSVP and do turn up
Some bring uninvited siblings

It’s always exciting to see what happens on the day