To send toddler whose poorly to GPS still?

[giraffes2021]

Ahhh probably going to get shot down for this but me and my partner had managed to bag a babysitter for both kids overnight not had a night to ourselves in a while!
However DS is one has got a throat infection and is on antibiotics typical!! We've had a week from hell with his sleeping and I thought it was his teeth turns out it wasn't!

We've a 3 year old as well as a 1 year old! Aibu to still ask GPs to have them for the night? I feel like I desperately need to recharge my batteries one night wouldn't hurt surely?! Arghhh

No, that’s really unfair-sorry.

Im in the same boat as you! I've given GP fair warning and they've said it's fine either way, it's only one night. Are the GP's likely to agree even if he's not sleeping well?

@MaMaD1990 id spoken to them last night and we've said we shall see how he is today! They are really hands on etc and I've no doubt he'll be taken care of sort of thing!

I personally wouldn't as I'd hate to stay away from my own bed if I was unwell enough to need antibiotics.

You won't know until you ask them, no need to try and guess

Or is there a reason you can't just call and find out?

Depends on many things.
If GDP are up to it and were dealing with similar situation and broken nights then yes.
If it's not the case,it may be quite upsetting for a LO and very stressful for GDP.
Personally,I would just re arrange for another weekend if possible.

Ask them but be aware that if you’ve told them you really need a night off, they may tell you to bring them anyway as they’d feel guilty otherwise.

I wouldn’t expose grandparents to viruses just for a night out.

[quote giraffes2021]@MaMaD1990 id spoken to them last night and we've said we shall see how he is today! They are really hands on etc and I've no doubt he'll be taken care of sort of thing! [/quote]
Cross posted with you, in that case you already know what they think. Not sure what else you can do then.

Would you be able to relax? On balance, I probably wouldn't if DS is likely to be clingy and looking for you.

Ah in that case I'd give them an update on how is I general and say you think he's fine to sleep over and you would REALLY love a night off. It's then up to them to say yes or no - you've done the right thing telling them though!

How longs he been on antibiotics for?
My LO had tonsillitis the other month and he was in a right state for 4 days, 5th day he was a lot better in himself and he stayed at GP that night.
So I would say just depends how he is today as you’ve said.

I'd reschedule the night away to a time you can fully relax and enjoy without any chance of needing to return to a poorly DC and no guilt over possibly exposing GP to illness. If you've told them you really need a night off they might feel bad about cancelling on you so it's down to you.

Its just going to need to wait. It is hard when they're poorly.

Just realised it's the 1 year old that's ill. I definitely wouldn't leave a poorly baby, sorry op.

@shouldistop

Just realised it's the 1 year old that's ill. I definitely wouldn't leave a poorly baby, sorry op.

Just realised this too, no I wouldn’t either.

Oh it’s just typical isn’t it, first night alone for ages and a DC is poorly!
I agree with PP, I wouldn’t leave a poorly 1 yr old with anyone, surely they will want you in the night not their GPS, no matter how hands on they are. Could you perhaps postpone for a week?

I know your all right ! Probably the only weekend we'd get chance to for months 😩 Sod's law isn't it!

When did baby start antibiotics? If yesterday or before they might be feeling better by this evening. If this morning then I wouldn't go.

@giraffes2021

I know your all right ! Probably the only weekend we'd get chance to for months 😩 Sod's law isn't it!

Part of being a parent though.

You’d never forgive yourself if one of them came down with a really bad virus as a result of being exposed to your poorly child.

If it were me, I’d prefer to put it off and enjoy the evening with no guilt about possibly risking my parents’ health for a night out.

I wouldn't want to pass germs onto anyone else and I wouldn't enjoy time away as much.

Is there anything else you can cancel in the next few weekends to prioritise a night off? It is important too.

To be honest it's not fair on your child either. I had a throat infection that needed antibiotics a couple of years ago and I honestly felt the worst I've ever felt. I wasn't even eating or coming downstairs and I'm never like that.

Don't drag them out of bed and take them somewhere strange. Let them stay home in comfort.

It might be that your parents would happily come and babysit at yours, but if not, the child has to come first, sorry.

I have once or twice had my parents look after my small child with a sicky bug so that I could work. For a night out I don't think I would want to put my parents in that position.

Why is it the only opportunity for months? Can you not make something work in the next few days once the baby's on the mend, even if that means going somewhere different or going in the daytime?

Nah, I couldn’t...

And I’d interpret “let’s see how he is tomorrow” as them being apprehensive too, or I’d imagine they’d have been encouraging you to go.

It’s your call; though. I know I’d feel too bad to enjoy myself with a poorly one year old, and I’d worry about if the GPs were actually coping okay now. It’s no fun for anyone but it must be harder older.

If there's any possibility of Covid, YABU. Has he been tested? I assume he's seen the doctor if he's on antibiotics.

Otherwise, it's up to the GPs.

DP & I haven't had a whole night to ourselves in the 7 years we've been together. We haven't even been out for a meal together in over a year. We're not martyrs, it's just a fact of life that being a parent to young kids means your life is restricted.

Leaving them wouldn't be fair on your kid or the grandparents. It's just tough.