To send toddler whose poorly to GPS still?

[giraffes2021]

Ahhh probably going to get shot down for this but me and my partner had managed to bag a babysitter for both kids overnight not had a night to ourselves in a while!
However DS is one has got a throat infection and is on antibiotics typical!! We've had a week from hell with his sleeping and I thought it was his teeth turns out it wasn't!

We've a 3 year old as well as a 1 year old! Aibu to still ask GPs to have them for the night? I feel like I desperately need to recharge my batteries one night wouldn't hurt surely?! Arghhh

It's not fair leaving them when they are poorly. Mine were always clingy and didn't want to be left when they weren't well.

you’re being ridiculously unreasonable. Unfair on both the grandparents and the baby

I don’t think that would be fair on the one year old or the grandparents. My brother gave my mum the flu when he didn’t want to give up his babysitting and left his sick toddler with her overnight. Mum was sick for weeks. That’s a big price for someone else to pay for your night out.

I'm not planning a big night out or something I'm trying to get some sleep in before I burn out just wanted to clarify that!

@giraffes2021

I'm not planning a big night out or something I'm trying to get some sleep in before I burn out just wanted to clarify that!

The reason doesn’t matter

I'd have more sympathy if you were a single parent wanting a good sleep, but there's two of you- can't you do a night each?

People are so mean. Yanbu to think about still going, and to be disappointed to miss out on a much needed rest Op. Hopefully get the chance again soon.

FWIW, I'd still send DS to my mum. In fact, my mum would absolutely insist that she takes him to help me out if I was at the point where I was about to crash.

I have just one child who's just turned 2 and I'm permanently exhausted. Having two young ones, you must be shattered, OP, and it's okay to need a break.

If GPs are hands on and your DC will be settled and well looked after, I don't see any harm.

DS has had a temperature this week and a bad cough which has made him sick in bed every single night. I haven't slept more than 2 hours a night and I'm shattered. I would happily hand him over to my mum for a full night's sleep right now

Could the GPS come to you to help out with the 1yo or just take the younger one? I’ve found just having one feels like a holiday in of itself.

I would have no issue at all, still having my DGC if they were unwell.

There's no harm in asking them.

I wouldn’t have personally when my DDs were that age. But that was because my DM was already in her early 70s and has always been prone to developing bronchitis if she went down with anything. Plus our DDs were always very clingy (being adopted).

So I personally wouldn’t, but it does depend on your DPs’ ages and vulnerabilities and how clingy your DS is likely to be. You could ask, but be very prepared for them to say no.

If he’s on the mend and bright and chirpy, and they’re ok with it, I’d probably would. If he’s still clingy and sad, no. DS often stays with his grandparents but last summer he got a stomach bug while he was there, and we cut short our mini break to get him because he wanted his mummy. I still want my mum when I’m poorly tbh and she’s been dead more than a decade! So it really depends how your little one is feeling, for me.

You're more likely to be able to look after your child if you get a break yourself. I still got a baby sitter even though my child was poorly once (as it was the first night with just dp we would have had in just over 4 years and they were fine with it) everything was fine, slept through as sick children tend to and I went from mum to mum.
having a break is best long term, of course you could run yourself ragged and still look after dc but what difference would it really make?
Do what you want, try not to feel guilty, and have a break. you deserve it!

oh that was a 1 star mum to a 5 star mum if that wasn't clear.
ps check dadsnet and see if DH is asking dads similar. He's not because its not bad for a dad to leave sick children but it is for mums. for some reason hmm

just reading some replies
don't listen to them, listen to me! @giraffes2021 have a rest. recharge. if your parents want to do it then they are probably doing a 2 in 1, wanting to care for their child's needs and their gramdchilds needs. It does take a village.
go. please. don't be a martyr and don't go to mumsnet unless you want 'I'm better than you are advice'

No way. My DCs wanted their mum when they were poorly.