I feel your pain. It’s infuriating, no matter what some others are saying! Your OH is home without child for 3 hours, surely he can fit in a few chores in there! If I had 3 hours to myself, there would not be any mess anywhere! Why should there be!
I came home last week to my OH just sitting in the lounge after taking the morning off, DD was being babysat by MIL (who only lives up the road), I said why didn’t he go get our DD and spend some time together. Also, the dishes from the night before that he was supposed to clean! As well as dishes after breakfast in the lounge still, with food in them! (Breakfast is always eaten in the lounge for some reason!). As well as the clothes I’d put in the washing machine in the morning just sitting in the washing machine all wet when it was sunny outside, his reply “I didn’t know they were there”, my reply “well you would have thought you’d think it was a nice day today, I’ll put a load on, then you would have found them there!”
Why do the women have to go to work (ok might be part-time in some cases, but still), so go to work, as well as making sure everything is ready in the morning, as in child dressed, child’s school lunchbox is ready, child has been fed, some light cleaning before work, come home from work (at lunchtime in my case), feed the family, clean the dishes, tidy the lounge, hang the clothes out, fold some other clothes, take DD for a walk or play with her, make dinner, bath time, then bed time. Then we get to sit down at 8ish pm after clearing everything, all toys etc. Yes the Dad may work more in some cases, doesn’t mean they work harder than the Mum!
Basically, I get you. It pisses me off too. I understand your frustration and you have every right to be frustrated. Sometimes I think the house would be cleaner and life would be easier without OH! But it’s nice to have them around, and it’s nice for the kids too. But it’s not much to ask them to do more around the house is it.