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Canwe666 · 09/06/2021 23:19

Is very young at 25. I was correctf by a colleague when I said my older children 19/23 and 25 were young adults. I also have a 12 year old.

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MagnoliaXYZ · 09/06/2021 23:39

She's not very young at 25, not in the sense of being a 'new' adult.

26 is (or was a few years ago) the average age of women having their first babies, people are generally a few years out of uni and into their careers by 25.

sbhydrogen · 09/06/2021 23:54

25 is prime time adult, I say.

Feelingpoorlysick · 09/06/2021 23:57

At 25 I was married and pregnant with my first child. I wouldn't have been pleased if my parents had still classed me as a 'young adult'.

ghostyslovesheets · 09/06/2021 23:59

Hmm depends on your Dd at 25 I had lived alone for 8 years and was completing my Masters while working - so no I don’t consider it young

MadMadMadamMim · 10/06/2021 00:02

Presumably, it depends on the maturity of your DD.

I had a full time job, was married, had a mortgage and two children by 25. My MIL had been widowed with three children under three by that age.

I'd have been very pissed off to be described as a 'young adult'. It would have felt condescending.

Also - my youngest DD is 25 and is a staff nurse in charge of Covid wards, so I don't consider her as being anything less than a full adult.

PixieDust28 · 10/06/2021 00:04

I wouldn't say it's young. I had DS at 26.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 10/06/2021 00:14

Who goes around ‘correcting’ people over things like this?

Cushionsnotpillows · 10/06/2021 00:15

You may have a particularly immature one, but no I wouldn't say 25 was "young adult". 19 yes as still in teenage years, 23 is over the line I'd say and 25 definitely no.

Thinking about it, I'd say "young adult" would cover 18-20/21 for me. Beyond 21 is graduated from Uni, first job, paying all the bills, all more "fully fledged adult".

WeAllHaveWings · 10/06/2021 00:33

Your dd might be a immature 25, but is not young. Most have enough life experience behind them to be independent adults well before 25.

MarkRuffaloCrumble · 10/06/2021 00:37

I wouldn’t say she’s ‘young’. To me a young adult is 18-22 ish. After that they’re just an adult!

I have DCs aged from 14-22 and I feel like the eldest (although very immature at times!) is definitely an adult, but having younger ones you do tend to group them all together and sort of average it out!

But I’m not sure why your colleague felt it was appropriate to correct you about it.

FortunesFave · 10/06/2021 00:44

I don't think it's old but it's definitely not 'very young'

Very young if we're talking about non children is probably 17-18.

25 is a woman...

DishingOutDone · 10/06/2021 00:45

I was divorced and engaged to my second husband at 25!

Cameleongirl · 10/06/2021 00:50

I think 25 is youngish, but I can see why others would disagree. Definitely on the verge of simply being an adult though.

Mind you, I know people in their 50’s who don’t like to admit they’re into late middle age.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 10/06/2021 00:54

this is a tough one, OP. I had 2 DC by the time I was 22, so I was definitely seen as an adult. However, I think we think differently about young people today. I see them all as young adults - those 25 and under at least. Go with it - they are YOUR young adults.

junebirthdaygirl · 10/06/2021 07:41

Think as dc are spending longer in college they seem younger at 25 as have less life experience. I graduated at 21 married at 26. Two of my dc graduated at 24 so l wouldn't have like to see them married or with babies by 25 . So it all depends on what they have been doing l think

Peace43 · 10/06/2021 07:43

I had a degree, full time development chemist job and a mortgage by 25. I definitely didn’t consider myself young!!

MadeOfStarStuff · 10/06/2021 08:46

25 isn’t very young. Most 25 year olds have been out of education and working for several years including in “responsible” jobs, many will be married and/or have children, some will own their own homes.

If your 25 year old is particularly immature then that’s an individual thing rather than an age thing

LittleBlackCat22 · 10/06/2021 08:48

I had a 5 year old and a full time job at 25!

Aprilx · 10/06/2021 08:50

A young adult is 18-20. A 25 year old is a regular adult.

Babybabybabyooooh · 10/06/2021 08:57

I’m only 26 and I don’t class myself as a young adult at all. I have a good job, a house, am married and have three children... I’d definitely say I’m just a regular adult at this point Grin

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 10/06/2021 15:10

Yabu. A 25 year old as an adult. At 25 I was a qualified chartered accountant, living with my partner in London. To me a young adult is someone between about 16 & 21, eg probably someone who is still studying, hasn't left home etc.

FrownedUpon · 10/06/2021 15:13

25 is an adult, but you may have an immature one. There’s quite a lot of them about!

LadyCatStark · 10/06/2021 15:15

No at 25 I was married with a 2 year old.

Reallyhadenough · 10/06/2021 15:18

25 is not a young adult!! At that age I was married and expecting our 3rd child! My eldest is 23 and I class her as an adult, the 17 year old is classed as a young adult.

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Canwe666 · 10/06/2021 15:20

Thanks everyone I guess she will always feel
Young to me as she’s my child. She’s a nurse so does have a responsible job.

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