DH’s account billed, who should pay?

[SettleMeThis]

Settle an argument for me please!

In April, I signed up for a 30 day free trial of Apple Music on my husband’s iPad which has his card details saved to it. I told him I’d done it and that I would cancel it before he was billed. I forgot to cancel it and the money came out of his account in May. I reimbursed him immediately and told him to cancel what was now a recurring monthly subscription, he said he would.

Fast forward to this month. The subscription fee has debited his account again because he didn’t cancel it. He’s asked me to send him the money again, however I said no on the basis that he said he was going to cancel it so in my eyes, my work is done. He says he would never have been charged if I hadn’t set up the free trial in the first place so I should pay. I see it from both sides, but would rather not pay up for something which I don’t feel is my fault any longer.

Who is BU?

OP: AIBU?
MN: YABU
OP: Thanks for the feedback. I now see IWBU and have changed mind.

Love it. Well done OP. I don't doubt your marriage is great given your pragmatism, how you listen to others opinions and will stand down rather than get stuck in ego or escalate. Also assertive when nonsense comes your way.

@HunterHearstHelmsley

This is so odd.

All of it.

But particularly "sitting down together over a glass of red" to cancel a music subscription. Like it's date night.

😂😂😂😂

You signed up, it's your responsibility to cancel it. However, I can't imagine making a fuss about a tenner, sounds a bit petty.

Phone them and tell them you have never used it. They will check their records, see that you haven't, and refund you.

Well, that is what happened to me when I forgot to cancel after a free trial.

For what it's worth, my finances are set up the same way as yours. Joint account for bills, the rest is individual. As for sending each other money... we use a budgeting app and every single penny is allocated to something so we always repay even small amounts. I don't think it's that weird.

If you signed up you should cancel it.

So I read DH this thread and we’ve had a smug chuckle at the expense of some of these responses!

You both sound as bad as each other! Our finances are set up similarly, we don’t pool all money together, but no way would DH ask me for money in this situation and if I signed up for something I don’t offload the mental load to him.

@StopSayingDueDiligence

Ooof I'm on your husbands side.

I'm not surprised he forgot just because it wasn't on his mind in the same way that it would have been had it been his subscription.
It just wouldn't have been as present in his mind.

I'd suggest splitting it and never doing it on his account again.

@StopSayingDueDiligence love the username. From the thread where the interviewee looked up the company finances?

Again, well matched.

Stay together. I don't think anyone else would have either of you.

I can't imagine you in any sort or real world crises....

Hope you're well wrapped in cotton wool 🤤

It's not like it's £100. Non problem.

Sounds like you both need to grow up.

"Also for those saying it’s only £XYZ amount - you’ve no idea what money means to people you don’t know. £15 is a substantial enough amount of money to us to query this"

Then maybe don't set us bs subscriptions on other people's devices knowing that you're likely to forget about them.

You should pay it this time and learn a lesson if your married money is that separate.

Who paid for the wine?

CeeceeBloomingdale
Who cares, you are married so the money belongs to you both
@BlueDucky
I think they have a financial arrangement where they have separate accounts

We have separate accounts too but our money is still shared, it's just held in different places.

Who paid for the wine? Or did you split it? 😂