I'm pregnant with my first.
I don't have any family. DH is an only child, albeit that his Dad has 3 older children who have 7 grandchildren between them. He has had no contact with any of them since he married DH's mum. They are nice people, we see them often and I'm very fond of them, but they like things to be done their way and will kick off until they get it, which is awkward at times.
DH & I are quite private and don't want to make the pregnancy 'public' until later on. We've told our closest friends, but we won't do an announcement, and we're not going to tell wider friends/work etc until a bit further down the line. It will have an impact on my career otherwise, due to the timings of promotions etc this year.
I'm due in the Winter - if it's allowed, we're happy for them to come and meet baby at the hospital when we're feeling okay, but we'd like some time to ourselves to settle in at home after that. We've got no room at home for visitors anyway, really, I'm worried about how a baby is going to fit!
I'd like to breastfeed, if I can.
DH told his parents early - he was really excited. His mum sobbed for what felt like five years, and his Dad didn't react at all. We explained that we wanted to keep it quiet for a while, which they understood, and then his mum asked if I planned to be one of those selfish women who breastfeed so that nobody else gets a turn, and his Dad said his only advice was to start physical discipline young so that the baby is well behaved. It was pretty awkward and eventually the conversation was changed.
The next day they called to say that it was a shock but they're very happy for us - and to ask DH if they could start telling people.
They've called twice a week since to ask if they can tell people and say that we're ruining the fun and they want to share the news and that we knew they were impatient and shouldn't expect them to keep it to themselves.
I'm dreading telling them anything else... DH has spoken to them about the constant asking yesterday, which made his mum cry, and then made me feel bad. He's said we'll stick to what we've decided, and they'll learn to live with it... but I know there will be loads of tears and messages about us pushing them out first.
Is it unreasonable to plan to stick to these? Are we being really selfish? We are really excited, but I have friends who really regretted letting people walk over their first few months, and the in-laws have history... his mum cried on our wedding day because it wasn't what she'd imagined for her son, and has had our photos professionally photoshopped 