To think it’s normal to cry after being sick for hours with no relief

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My adult dd did something harmful to herself which resulted in her being sick for hours on end. Before starting nac treatment eventually she started to cry due to this. Dp said to me why would she cry.

You mean she harmed herself on purpose? Even without the vomiting for ages it’s a very emotional time, completely understandable that she’s crying. Is your partner usually so dense?

I hope things improve for your daughter soon btw.

She overdosed on paracetamol and your partner wants to know why she might cry??

Have I got that right?

Presumably the paracetamol overdose is something to do with her crying too. I hope your DD is getting the support she needs. for you.

Yes I didn’t realise how much he lacked empathy till that comment.

He’s not sympathetic no he’s more a get over it type of man.

She’s harmed herself and he’s expecting her to just get over it?

What is nac treatment? What do you mean by no relief? She hurt herself in some way - and then she was sick? And being sick made her cry? That sounds normal to me - being sick is very draining and debilitating. Add emotional distress to that, I’m not surprised she cried.

Hope DD is ok.

Is your partner completely void of any emotion?!

It's an incredibly strange question to feel the need to ask. Even someone with no empathy whatsoever should be able to figure it out!

Sending best wishes for your DD.

They didn’t give her anti sickness until she had been being sick for about seven or eight hours straight

Thanks everyone for the well wishes

Oh your poor daughter. I always cry when I get sick. I just don’t do being sick very well (unlike my sister who seems to cope a lot better).

Your daughter sounds very distressed and your partner lacks a huge amount of empathy. The poor thing, please help her!

Vomiting for ages with no let up is horrible. Esp once stomach is empty. I've cried over that when had food poisoning. Your stomach muscles really hurt.

And of course she's obviously struggling with her mental health in a big way.

He's a bastard.

Oh, sorry, I’ve just googled nac treatment. Of course your DD cried. Your DP has no understanding.

Even without the overdose I think I'd cry after being sick for that length of time.

The comment from your DP is just bizarre.

Surely even the most sense of men could manage to put the pieces together and come up with a reasonable answer for themselves?

Exactly it was stomach bile she was vomiting

Poor her. Is her relationship with her weird dad contributing to her struggles do you think ?

He’s not her dad but I’ve been with him quite a while now five years in august

He sounds horrible. How long has she been struggling/ having problems? She sounds very unhappy.

I think the title of this post is misleading. It should be ‘is it OK for my partner to be an arse about my DD when she’s mentally struggling’.
And no, it’s not. Stop thinking about him, he’s an arse. Just give your dd lots of love.

Hope your dd is ok.
Even in far less upsetting circumstances, it can be normal to cry when being sick! Eg, some people cry when vomiting with a stomach bug. Especially after 8 hours of it!
Throwing up hurts, even more so when it's been going on so long that the stomach is empty. People cry when they are in pain. Plus there is the emotional turmoil your dd must have been in to harm herself in the first place.
Crying in your dd's circumstances is very normal and I am really surprised that anyone could find that surprising!
But it sounds like a very difficult time for you all, and stress can do strange things, so maybe that is why your dh is not thinking clearly.

Bless her, I hope your DD is ok.

Of course it’s totally normal to cry when you have been sick a lot. It’s absolutely horrible, she’s probably exhausted

It sounds like he was thinking why only then would she cry- but that doesn't warrant him saying it. What an insensitive bastard.

I hope your DD is feeling better now, sending best wishes