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If you have a dog that jumps and you have visitors

125 replies

Sometimesfraught82 · 06/06/2021 17:05

Please
Please
Stop them from bloody jumping up at your guests. If a child was doing it, presumably you would.

But so many give dogs free passes.

Beautiful skirt I wore.... dirty and scratched before I’d even made it through to the kitchen!

OP posts:
buckeejit · 06/06/2021 20:12

Awful, can't believe they didn't put it in another room for a while at least if it's not trained to not jump.

My friend has Newfoundland dogs. They are lovely dogs but my god, the house stinks of them & hair & slobber goes everywhere. I can't really go there anymore-if I do I need to change into manky old clothes.

momager1 · 06/06/2021 20:17

@buckeejit

Awful, can't believe they didn't put it in another room for a while at least if it's not trained to not jump.

My friend has Newfoundland dogs. They are lovely dogs but my god, the house stinks of them & hair & slobber goes everywhere. I can't really go there anymore-if I do I need to change into manky old clothes.

buck...my friend has a newfie. and i would NEVER spend time at her house as the few times i have been there there is slobber dried on the walls from them shaking and the smell is very "doggy" but that being said he is an amazing big softie and i am happy to meet him at the dog park
DeathByWalkies · 06/06/2021 20:18

Obviously this is non ideal BUT is it a young dog? If so they're likely in a situation where the dog
A) is young, excitable and sometimes forgets the training
B) was a lockdown puppy and visitors were very rare so there were no training practice opportunities
C) used not to jump up, but hasn't seen visitors in over a year and has forgotten that bit of training.

The advice for teaching dogs not to jump up involves getting the visitor to completely ignore the jumping until the dog stops jumping. When all 4 paws are on the floor the visitor gives attention. Dog jumps up, dog gets ignored. Repeat incessantly until the dog learns that jumping up is never rewarded. It does require a briefing for your visitor though and it's best to start by using your more dog savvy friends.

Witchesbelazy · 06/06/2021 20:22

One of my dogs is jumpy so they don’t leave the kitchen when we have guests yanbu.

Branleuse · 06/06/2021 20:22

Did they not attempt to stop it at all?

Horst · 06/06/2021 20:29

This is why I stay away from dogs. No it’s not cute or funny or friendly.

Would you let a person jump all over and scratch people? No exactly.

Even worse with small dogs ah it’s cute hehe no it’s biting my and if a big dog was doing this to your ankle it wouldn’t be cute or funny you’d be demanding it be put down!

PhannyPharts · 06/06/2021 20:34

@Chailatteplease I'm not picking a fight with you Wink. I'm questioning what you've been told.

I've been a dog trainer for 15 years (I'd consider that experienced too) and attended seminars as part of that by the dog law specialist Trevor Cooper. Which I recommend all dog owners attend as they're enlightening. The dangerous dogs act applies to dogs and their handlers.

Assault is defined by the CPS as where a person intentionally inflicts an act of harm, suffering or violence. Interestingly, Dogs are seen as chattel in the eyes of the law too- if they are stolen they are treated the same way as if a handbag was taken.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 06/06/2021 21:07

As much as I agree jumping isn't ok, comparing it to people jumping is just bit ridiculous 🙈

Papoy · 06/06/2021 21:30

I like my friend but I dont like her new dog (also most dogs to be fair).

It feels like pet owners all assume everyone likes cats and dogs .... but thats not the case.... the smell, the behaviour, the saliva can be an issue too....

It is so hard to tell a pet owner "I don't like your cat/dog" because they always say see them as part of family... So probably it may sound like me saying "I don't like your son/husband" and I wouldn't want to hurt their feelings or harm the friendship....

But I am sure if her son or her husband was licking my legs, chew my shoes and try to dry hump me ... then the son or the husband would be at least sent to another room... but the dog doesn't? I find this a major social issue that I face very often...

Babyroobs · 06/06/2021 21:32

One of my dogs jumps up despite us trying to stop it. If we have visitors round and she is making a nuisance of herself I will just shut her away in the front room for a short while to clam down or take her round to my dads whilst we have visitors.

Muddydoor · 06/06/2021 21:33

Had a lovely chat to a tone-deaf WPC at my local bus station. I am terrified of dogs. Her response that their dog is really friendly and jumps on everyone. AngryAngryAngry

WarmSausageTea · 06/06/2021 21:35

We had friends visit (pre-covid) with their dog, and she was a jumper. She jumped up at me when I was carrying a dish of food, and jumped on the table (luckily there was only a tablecloth on it), and the owners laughed it all off. I don’t think that dog had received so much as one word of discipline until that weekend.

The dog has died since, but no way on earth are those two twits ever coming here again.

StoneofDestiny · 06/06/2021 21:48

Dogs jumping all over you is rarely seen as a problem by the owners who always say 'dogs just saying hello', 'dog likes you' etc . Unbelievable when you knock the door and the owner just lets the dog run out at you. Every time! Poor delivery drivers.

amy2021 · 06/06/2021 21:56

This is why I stopped visiting one friend as she got a dog that is something crossed with a lurcher and jumps all the time. It means I'm constantly on edge the whole time I'm there and it's even worse if my son is there too. I find some people with dogs expect you to just deal with it. My brother said that my at the time 2 year old needed to get used to dogs. How are you supposed to get used to dogs when you don't have one? I'm a cat person all the way!

Mummywantsaweewee · 06/06/2021 22:04

People don’t bother training their dogs anymore. I don’t like strange dogs jumping up and me and scratching me or slobbering on me.
Went to the beach the other day and dc1 had dropped his flake chocolate on the floor. Man walks past with two HUGE wet dogs having been swimming in the sea. Dog slobbering on me and rubbing wet fur on me… man walks off on phone with the other dog not paying attention having said “oh they won’t hurt anyone” (they always say this) leaving the other dog with us. Was only when dog eventually left and we walked other way that I realised one of the dogs had eaten the chocolate off the floor! The man had no bloody idea and all because he was being so bloody lax about looking after his doggies. Besides the fact that their dog(s) could harm people, dog owners need to be more observant as to what their dogs are doing so the dogs don’t hurt themselves, either.

MissCruellaDeVil · 06/06/2021 22:09

I've tried believe me! She'll be fine and well behaved then boom she gets excited and jumps everywhere; I do try to keep her out the way where possible, but why should I shut her in a crate etc?

jackstini · 06/06/2021 22:34

@MissCruellaDeVil
Because she can't behave!
When she can, let her out the crate. Until she can, keep her in for visitors and out the rest of the time

MachiaNelly · 06/06/2021 23:20

I hate it when you have to fake laugh and pretend to find it cute

I've never done that. I keep my stoney face on because that's how I feel.

MachiaNelly · 06/06/2021 23:27

I always tell my guests not to be shy if the dog does something you don't like
Someone who is nervous of dogs is not going to try to discipline it on its own territory. That's the owners job. Sometimes a dog will force its nose into your crotch. I hate that but not confident to push it away. It feels like an aggressive move. It's the owners job to stop it happening

PurpleDaisies · 06/06/2021 23:41

@MachiaNelly

I always tell my guests not to be shy if the dog does something you don't like Someone who is nervous of dogs is not going to try to discipline it on its own territory. That's the owners job. Sometimes a dog will force its nose into your crotch. I hate that but not confident to push it away. It feels like an aggressive move. It's the owners job to stop it happening
Totally agree. Why should it be the guest’s responsibility to deal with your dog? Either keep it out of the way or train it not to behave like that.
SirenSays · 07/06/2021 07:39

Then I presume they wouldn't ask me to bring the Foster dogs out... Did you skip the first part of my post?
And yes, It's their responsibility not to undermine my training by petting and encouraging the dogs being naughty when I'm clearly telling them to behave.

rogdmum · 07/06/2021 08:15

My dog jumps on visitors. We put him on lead whenever anyone who isn’t dog mad comes round and I keep him by my side until they leave or say they don’t mind an enthusiastic dog determined to give them kisses.

We did try training him but we don’t have enough visitors to get enough consistency. Putting him on lead works fine.

legotruck · 07/06/2021 08:19

'Ooo they won't hurt you'

'He won't bite, he just likes to give kisses'

'Don't worry, she just wants to be your friend'

Fuck off. Fuck off to all of this.

It's so bastarding intrusive.

I don't like dogs. I don't like them near me. Not licking, not jumping and not being my friend.

I do not like dogs. Keep them the fuck out of my person space.

It's not up to dog owners to decide their dog can come near me. That's up to me.

Atalune · 07/06/2021 08:22

Jumping is my pet peeve and when we got our puppy I have tried diligently to prevent jumping. She is still prone to it occasionally but before we open the door the puppy goes on the lead so we can control her.

It’s not fair and I would be MORTIFIED if she hurt someone. Worst of all is a bouncy dog who knocks children over. My friends dog does this. Bad!

rookiemere · 07/06/2021 08:22

We have a dog. Very occasionally he will get over excited around visitors but I am very apologetic. If there was damage to a garment I'd offer to pay for it.

I hate when I'm out walking the dog and someone else's dog jumps at me and muddies my clothes- ddog has never done this with a stranger. It's usually smaller dogs as I feel that owners give them more leeway. Blinking annoying when everything has to go in the wash- particularly if owners don't seem bothered.