AIBU to pick comfort over looking amazing on my wedding day?

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Even though my wedding isn’t until mid 2022, I’ve started buying wedding dresses. It’s a very small affair, so I never wanted a huge/OTT dress, however I’ve found one I like a lot and it’s very very comfortable, but also a bit boring? It’s a simple A line with flower detailing on the top part, and very flattering (I’m straight up and down), but it’s not particularly “look at me!” and seems like something I would wear anyway (other than it being full length, white and clearly a wedding dress, if that makes sense).

I’ve tried another dress which is very bridal and different to my usual style, but people I’ve shown have said it suits me and I do really like it, but it’s not as comfortable!

AIBU to pick the boring, comfortable dress instead of the stunning one?

You only have one wedding and pay a fortune for a photographer. As long as dress no.2 isn't really uncomfortable I think I'd go with that one and I'm a comfort first person!

I'd keep looking. It doesn't sound like you love either dress. It doesn't have to be uncomfortable, but it should give you that 'wow, I never want to take this off' feeling

I went for the “bridal” style that everyone went mad over, even though I wasn’t sure. It didn’t suit me at all. It arrived and I cried at the fitting...

This was in the midst of lockdown so it was then locked in at the wedding boutique, and I bought a cheap online “back up” dress. It was simple and quite plain, but comfortable and very me. I did take it for a few minor alterations before I got married but there was an error at the seamstress and they never got done... so it didn’t fit perfectly on the day.

But that was my dress. I loved it. It felt like me, I felt confident, I loved it. The bridal dress is now in the wardrobe in its dust cover, because even brand new wedding dresses only seem to sell for 50% of what you paid and I can’t bring myself to write off the cost yet, but I wish I’d chosen my simple, nice dress to start with.

I don’t see why it’s boring if it’s full length, white, very flattering and has detailing on the top? What makes the alternate option “bridal”? Maybe links would be helpful

I would go with the one you like, and I didn’t wear heels either so I’m definitely also a comfort girl!

Do you feel you can move well in it? How important is it to you to look exceptional in photos?

I had calf-length blue bridesmaid's dress at my wedding because I knew I couldn't move very well in full length evening wear, am too pale for white and would probably spill something all over any pale dress and I wanted to get married looking like me, not 'me dressed up as a bride' as big wedding dresses were just not 'me' (not to say they can't look amazing on other people).

So I guess it's a question of do you want to look/feel like you, or is it more important to you to look exceptional for the day?

I actually much prefer simple bridal style but you should be happy with what you choose so if you feel like you’re settling just for comfort and not also because you’re in love with the dress, I would keep looking for another one as you have enough time for it.

It's your day, wear what you like.

You won't feel comfortable if you feel a bit meh. You'll wish you went for the 'wow'.

Go for the one you feel most "you" in

You need to keep looking. You have plenty of time and haven’t found “the one” get.

If you have to question it, it isn’t right.

Don't be pressured by what you think other people like. Pick what you like. If you are not comfortable, you're not going to enjoy the day.

Choose the one that is comfortable and more you. Your happiness will shine though and that is what everyone will see.

Don’t pick either - keep looking until you find one that makes you feel as special, confident AND comfortable as you want to feel!

It’s still out there, you just haven’t found it yet!

I would always go for the more comfortable one.

It’s going to be a busy, long day, and you’ll enjoy it less if you’re feeling uncomfortable in it either physically or mentally. So many friends who’ve had elaborate gowns have said they really regret it, they spent so much time hoiking it up or breathing in or worrying about someone stepping on the bottom and ripping it or couldn’t stop worrying about a nipple appearing!

Comfort any day. You want to be able to focus on your husband, the entertainment, your loved ones. Kinda like how when you’re in painful high heels nothing else feels like it matters until you get them off.

Presumably you'll also be accessorising both the dress and yourself? Maybe the simpler dress will look altogether different when you have on some gorgeous jewellery and a bouquet.

Does it bore you?
Do you look at it and think this is dull, I want something else?
If not - buy this sleek, flattering, minimalist dress.
If it does bore you - if you're asking fo permission to get the LOOK AT ME! Dress then go buy that.
However small your ceremony you can go as BIG with the dress as you wish. It's your wedding day. You deserve what you want.
Enjoy

As you've said "Dresses" I'm guessing you're not spending £££ on each one and you'll have quite a collection by your wedding day
I'd keep the comfy one as a back up as it fits and you're happy in it.
You've already said you'd wear similar ones, so it could always be altered (shortened) for future wear.
Other than that, what is the harm in looking at others.👰🏻

You need to consider the overall impact with bouquet , hair done and make up - a simple dress may be perfect

Boring?

Or elegant...classy...graceful.

You don't need to wear something that screams "look at me" to be the centre of attention.

Wear the dress that feels right to you, not the one that feels right to everyone except you.

You’ve got a long day of being in the dress and talking to everyone who wants to congratulate you. You need to enjoy your day. Don’t go for anything you don’t feel comfortable in.

Comfort all the way. It's going to be a long day, and with hair/make-up and your flowers, it shouldn't look boring. Perhaps go for some more vibrant shoes or jewellery?

I'll never forget watching a bridal show and this poor lady choosing a really fluffy huge wedding dress with a really severe up do and a lot of make up. Her husband commented to camera (after a few drinks I'd imagine) that he hated how she looked. I think on your wedding day, you should be the best version of yourself and not someone else.

If you think the dress is boring then it is not the right dress, keep looking. It is possible to find comfortable and not boring in the same dress.

I went for bridal..I really wish I hadn't. Even 16 years later I wish I had picked something more me. You can look stunning in simple and you will be relaxed and happy..which will make you look even more fantastic.

I wore a bridal, but simple wedding dress, it was my style and I loved the way I looked. I also wore comfortable mid heels shoes. I had trainers as a backup for later but didn't need them.

I knew that if I chose a big princess style dress I won't feel like myself and won't be comfortable. Simple dress + hair, make-up, and flowers will look great. I also had a veil and that was probably my favourite part.

So if you don't feel comfortable in a dress, don't get it. I'm sure you'll look stunning.

Bet your fiance doesn't have to make this decision.... Spike heels and tight corsets show on faces, as does the endless hoiking up of a ghastly strapless dress. You can be elegant and still comfortable, and might actually enjoy the day that way.

Let's face it, no one really remembers what a bride wears, one white or ivory frock looks very like another. The only memorable dress was Princess Diana's because it was utterly ludicrous.