AIBU to pick comfort over looking amazing on my wedding day?

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Even though my wedding isn’t until mid 2022, I’ve started buying wedding dresses. It’s a very small affair, so I never wanted a huge/OTT dress, however I’ve found one I like a lot and it’s very very comfortable, but also a bit boring? It’s a simple A line with flower detailing on the top part, and very flattering (I’m straight up and down), but it’s not particularly “look at me!” and seems like something I would wear anyway (other than it being full length, white and clearly a wedding dress, if that makes sense).

I’ve tried another dress which is very bridal and different to my usual style, but people I’ve shown have said it suits me and I do really like it, but it’s not as comfortable!

AIBU to pick the boring, comfortable dress instead of the stunning one?

Feeling amazing doesn't mean being uncomfortable!

You shouldn't describe your own dress as "a bit boring". Keep searching, you haven't found it yet. The main thing is that you love it, whichever style you choose and whichever style is "YOU".

It doesn't have to be meringue or feel dull to you. It shouldn't be uncomfortable either.

It doesn't have to be either/or.

You've plenty of time to find a comfortable dress that you don't think is boring.

I had my dress made for me and it was somewhere in the middle - it had a separate bodice and a full skirt, both simple but comfortable and not fussy. 10 years on it still looks like you could wear it now so I’m happy I went with something a bit more classic. I tried on lots of things that were very in at the time and hated them all

I think dress number one (the "boring" one) sounds better! You say it's your usual style, and the other one isn't the kind of thing you'd normally wear. That sounds fabulous to me, surely you'd want your wedding dress to reflect your individual style! And it sounds like a gorgeous dress- your description of it sounds like simple elegance to me - beautiful and timeless. As well as being something that really suits you.

And I wouldn't underestimate feeling comfortable in it - you're going to be having a long day presumably, the ceremony (including kneeling?) photos, lots of food, dancing. Wearing something that "isn't you" or feels physically uncomfortable might be something that niggles you.

You have your own style for a reason so I'd go for dress one

#teamcomfortabledress

I thought both Meghan's dresses were really "simple". Both looked absolutely gorgeous. Nothing boring or uncomfortable there!

Go with your own taste, but you should be happy with your choice, not settle for something you find "meh".

I almost passed out on my Wedding day because the amazing looking dress was too tight.

I wish I had copied my sister: she wore an amazing designer dress for her day: but not white! It was a floral print and it was beautiful.
She can wear it again whenever she chooses.
My dress is put away and is no good for anyone.

Can we see the dresses?

You can get a wedding dress that is extremely comfortable - I've got one! A fashionable (I love it but it's not a timeless classic but neither is it a meringue) beautiful comfortable dress that I love

I would keep looking if I were you

I went for comfort and price over look at me wedding dresses. I jist kept thinking 'how will I wee' 'how will I move around the space easily' 'how will I walk to the venue' - it was local and I wanted to walk there. I don't regret it one bit. I had a lovely day in an outfit I was happy and relaxed in.

I think I'm definitely going to go for the comfortable one! It's not boring, it's just boring compared to the glamorous ones I'd feel a numpty in!

I'm doing my own hair and make up on the day, so why would I ever want anything that wouldn't be 'me'?!

I've tried it on again (this time with my hair washed and make up on) and I couldn't stop looking at myself in the mirror haha so I think I'm sorted!

Thanks everyone!

I’m all about the comfort. I’d probably pick which ever dress I could wear my trainer under

Trainers

Can you show us?

Comfort is important.

I went to a wedding a few years ago and the bride - who looked stunning - left early because her corset bodice was so uncomfortable. I saw her a few days later and she had actual bruises on her sides from the damn thing.

Definitely choose the one you personally like best and feel most at ease in. Too many brides look like they've been trussed up, nothing better than a simple classy dress.

I think you've made the right decision, you've seen it on you when your feeling more "done up", and it's worked for you.

If you do feel the need to embellish it more, I think you can get some pretty, decorative belts/sashes to add a bit of sparkle.

Aww I want to see it!! Can you post a non-identifying pic?!

I'd go with simple and comfortable, gives you more space to have fun with extras like hair, accessories etc without looking like a Christmas tree and the day is LONG so comfort will trump in the end. I picked something very plain and easy to wear for mine, and no regrets at all. I'm smiling and dancing in all the photos.

Fab. Good luck - enjoy your day.

(I did my own make up - but treated myself and daughter to a lovely blow on the morning of the wedding. That made me feel glamorous without not being me.....I'm not one for a full face so don't regret not having a professional do my make up. I also found it less stressful on the morning.)

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I wanted to get married looking like me, not 'me dressed up as a bride'

This is exactly how I felt, so I got married wearing a dress I loved that I had already worn to several balls and events.

Good choice OP! If you feel confident in your dress you’ll look all the more gorgeous for it

Comfortable is important. You need to be able to sit, eat, dance and go to the toilet alone, or not being able to do those things will overshadow the day. And I completely agree about doing your own makeup so you look like yourself. Have a brilliant time!

Yes, go for 'you' OP

Honestly, I had an amazing wedding day and I have never once thought about it or looked at the pictures and thought 'I wish I'd worn a fancier dress'!