For expecting something so stupid in return?

[showmethegin]

This is going to sound so stupid but me and DP have just had a really stupid row. We've had three traumatic miscarriages in the last year, we're now getting great care but it's involved 3 womb biopsies, a course of antibiotics that's meant I've missed three great parties because I can't drink (that he has gone wild in), and I want to go and see dodi from the Iceland Eurovision entry who is playing 2 miles from our house.

I think they are naff and great and they make me feel really happy (naff isn't my normal style) and he's basically just said no, he won't take me. It's 10 quid a ticket, we aren't short of money. As far as I'm concerned it's an 90 minutes where he could be drinking a pint or two, what's the big deal. To see his DP happy. He's stoped off 'no I fucking hate them, i won't do it'

Is this a STUPID red flag (I'm aware this sounds insane), but it's the principle?

Just none that would be interested in this specific thing. If it was a house music gig or something I wouldn't dream of asking him because I'd have 10 mates at the drop of my hat that would be up for it, as I said before it's just cus it's a bit niche

I mean... it is really niche; and if you’re happy for your friends not to join you because it’s niche and they won’t enjoy it, why doesn’t that also apply to your DP?

I think I’d go because I’d feel bad letting my DH down... but it’s never come up, thankfully we have very similar taste in music!

We both went to a gig with my MiL and it was horrendous. She loved it but even seeing her really happy didn’t make up for the atrociousness of 90 minutes of music that was like nails down a chalkboard for me... I wouldn’t go again, I’d make an excuse 🙈

I think if you explain to him, he’ll probably go. But I think I’d also probably go by myself - you can have a dance anyway, and it is really niche. If you don’t know anyone who will enjoy it and it’s 10 mins from home, meet him afterwards and go for a drink that you’ll both enjoy or something