How Much Towards Holiday?

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DS13 has been invited away for a week with his best friend & his family.
They won’t accept any money towards the holiday as they’ve booked 6-berth accommodation regardless, but I shall insist on contributing towards food & spends. How much would you offer?

Is it self catering? All inclusive?

£30 per day for meals/drinks etc
And I'd probably send with £100 for blowing.

Apologies, should have been more specific! It’s self catering. There’s a free to use pool / activities included.

£200-£300

When self catering abroad....We cover the cost of the apartment then ask the friend to pay for the flight and £100
Towards food. We cover everything else.
Hope your son has a fantastic time!

I'd suggest £50 per day, all in.

Really? So would people seriously expect to pay £310 per person- so a family of four would be £1240 -plus accommodation for a week in a caravan? Gosh. That's a lot.

Having taken away a friend, to accompany my dc, I would be horrified if the friend's parents - having already been told they don't need to pay anything - then started sending huge amounts like this.

I would make sure that your ds has enough cash to get himself and his mate an icecream or other likely spends, and put £100 in an envelope with a note asking them to have a meal out on us.

Where did op say it was a caravan?

Around £200 sounds reasonable to go towards food etc?

Then £100 or so spending money?

I would give them £100 towards food and give your DS £100 spends

Just give him £100 to cover any spends, or money to buy them lunch/dinner one day.

Some of these suggestions are ludicrous

I would give him £100 for spends and tell him to treat for ice creams at some point. I would slip a further £100 in an envelope and give that to the parents as contribution for food or a meal out.

Also it depends what you can afford. I know I couldn't just drop 200-300£ on something like this!

I know this is subjective, but some of the amounts suggested on here are mad!! When we go on a caravan holiday, we might eat out 2-3 times (roughly £20pp), plus tea & cake and ice creams and the odd excursion. If I'd offered to take another child away, I'd be happy to pay for some outings. I think £100-£150 is plenty for six days, plus whatever spending money your son wants to take.

I would check what DS friend is going to have to spend then match that.
Give DS an extra £20 and tell him to buy ice creams one day.
Offer the parents money towards food. If the don't want it l won't worry
I have taken kids friends away before but to be honest it doesn't cost to much to feed an extra person.

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Where did op say it was a caravan?

She hasn't specifically, but she says 'they’ve booked 6-berth accommodation' and it has a pool and activities, so it sounds like one to me. (Not terribly relevant to the thread anyway.)

Some off these amounts people are suggesting are way to high. I wouldn't have given my 13 year £100 to spend on a holiday. If there friends cane with that much l would feel obliged to then spend more money on my child

I would put £200 extra in his bank account and tell him to treat them to ice cream/coffee and cake/etc once or twice and then take them for a sensibly priced meal on the last night to say thank you (and give the parents a heads up on this)

I agree on £100 for food and £50-100 for spends. That's plenty

As a host id expect nothing and wouldn’t take anything off you. The other way round in the uk self catering I’d offer £100 for food for a week for one child.
Spending money wise I’d check if they are doing any activities and base it round that but would say £200.

We’ve had this situation both ways (taking kids’ friends and our kids going away) and one thing no-one appears to have factored in is how hard it is for a 13 year old to spend any money if the host family says they don’t have to.

They can’t really insist on being first at the bar, picking up a restaurant bill or paying at the supermarket. You can send them with however much you like and I bet they’ll bring most of it back.

£50 per day!!! Crikey, I’d rather put that towards a family holiday. My 12 year old has been invited away for a week with family friends & I was planning to give them £100 plus the cost of her entry to any days out if there are any which I don’t think there is...

If I had invited a child away with us I’d not ask if i wanted/expected payment but would accept a small sum to cover some food, ice-creams etc so likelihood is they aren’t expecting much if anything so don’t stretch yourself to give ludicrous amounts x

I take a friend camping, I don't want anything towards the cost of the trip but she usually buys a round of ice creams and her mum gives me a bottle of wine when I drop her home - not necessary in the slightest but much appreciated.
There's no way I'd let her buy our meal (we usually eat out at least once) and as others have said it's awkward for a teen to even try.
If they're self catering maybe send a lovely cake with them?

• Having taken away a friend, to accompany my dc, I would be horrified if the friend's parents - having already been told they don't need to pay anything - then started sending huge amounts like this.

I would make sure that your ds has enough cash to get himself and his mate an icecream or other likely spends, and put £100 in an envelope with a note asking them to have a meal out on us.*

This ^. Exactly this.

Might allow a bit more than £100 for a thank you meal for potentially six people