Husband named group chat

[Mum1503]

So, I’m 8 months pregnant. I could be just thinking too much into this. My husband is going on a small stag with boys from his football team, there is 4 of them including him in his group. Basically a group chat has been made for them, which is normal but he decided to name the group chat ‘shaggers’. He is the only married one, the rest are not in relationships just ‘seeing girls’. Baring in mind my husband is 34 years old as well. AIBU or am I right in thinking wtf? Why would YOU name it that? I’m confused about the whole thing. I just spotted it last night and he’s leaving this morning. Please be honest am I just been silly?

Could they be huge fans of Scooby Doo?

(Hint: does he ever call you Velma in the throes of passion? )

Oh god, I worked predominantly with men, shagging is what they are aiming to do.
I went on a conference once, and they were all off on the night time, to a local disco near the hotel, and even the guys who lived with a girlfriend were off with people.
A colleague went off with fellow fathers and sons on a football jaunt. One of the fathers met a stripper, others were off with people too, all married men, whose sons were there, presumable left in the hotel as they were youngsters.
Said man left his wife for the stripper..and I only call her that as colleague was so impressed, and described her as such, I think she gave lap dances, from what I remember.
What a night mare for the wife, and kids he left. Idiot

I’m just curious as to why he was the one who called it that

Why don't you ask him then?

I bet he did mean to type Staggers. Its too silly for words. Don't give it another thought.

Unless you have reason to suspect he is, or is going to be unfaithful, he’s probably just trying to be ‘one of the lads’.

Hahahaha

I’m pretty sure it’s intended to be an Inbetweeners-style gag

I'd be more worried about his strip club habit to be honest. Grim

And that's how you view women, is it @JulietBravo999?
Nice.

I wouldn’t like it at all. I’m surprised so many posters think it’s funny.

@CallmeHendricks

And that's how you view women, is it *@JulietBravo999*? Nice.

Some of them, yes. It’s clearly an infantile joke, but probably not worth divorce.

I think that says more about you than perhaps you realise.

@StoneColdBitch

He shags you, presumably?

He may see himself as a "shagger" due to his relationship history up to now.

Do you have other reasons to be concerned? Are there issues in your marriage? Have you not had sex for months due to your pregnancy?

If everything else is fine in the marriage this wouldn't worry me at all - I'd not assume from the chat name that he was planning to be unfaithful.

If there are wider issues in the marriage, then I'd be more concerned.

Give over

Jeez, this thread makes me wish I were a lesbian.

@CallmeHendricks

I think that says more about you than perhaps you realise.

I doubt he would be broadcasting a desire to be unfaithful to you via a WhatsApp group name that you can easily see.

I would imagine it's just a really cringey joke.

I'd assume it was an in joke between them. It wouldn't upset me, but I would definitely take the piss! It's very 'Inbetweeners' and tragic

WhatsApp group names are supposed to be stupid. Me and my friends have a group called ‘Doggers in Xtown’ but none of us have ever gone dogging, that I know of anyway. Perhaps we are just juvenile beyond redemption.

@CallmeHendricks

"He can’t go to strip clubs at the moment but it doesn’t bothers me if he does,"

I keep seeing women saying this. Why on earth doesn't it bother you, to be married to someone who thinks strip clubs are an OK thing?

Exactly. I hope OP raises her standards once her baby arrives.

Just absolutely make fun of it to him, say your noticed it and mercilessly tease him about why. I find it’s a better way to get someone to realise than being serious. If he feels it’s ridiculous he will apologise and change it.

I’d definitely do a bit of an eye roll at that tbh. I expect he just wants to be cool and he one of the lads.

Why are you worries about the group chat name when you’re Ok with him going to strip clubs?

I wouldn't be remotely impressed and would suspect that their night involved attempting to get a shag.

Maybe I’m missing something- why is it that he ‘can’t go to strip clubs at the moment’? And also he used to do it, and may do it into the future with your blessing?

Not really judging you, just interested. It’s kinda relevant to your question to MN too though.

@longwayoff

Can you rename it Tossers? That might be more suitable.