Husband named group chat

[Mum1503]

So, I’m 8 months pregnant. I could be just thinking too much into this. My husband is going on a small stag with boys from his football team, there is 4 of them including him in his group. Basically a group chat has been made for them, which is normal but he decided to name the group chat ‘shaggers’. He is the only married one, the rest are not in relationships just ‘seeing girls’. Baring in mind my husband is 34 years old as well. AIBU or am I right in thinking wtf? Why would YOU name it that? I’m confused about the whole thing. I just spotted it last night and he’s leaving this morning. Please be honest am I just been silly?

It's very juvenile and not particularly attractive but I wouldn't have thought it's an indication he's planning on going out shagging randoms on the stag night.

Wouldn’t bother me, group chat names are always ridiculous in my case 😂

@BlueTriskel

It sounds like a pathetic attempt to make them sound free-wheeling, sexy and dangerous. Like the class nerds calling themselves the Coolio Gang.

Cruel but true

I can’t repeat what my partner’s WhatsApp group is called currently. They all seem to change the title constantly. They’re in their 40s, in sensible jobs but seem to become Beavis and Butthead in their chats.

I wouldn’t be too concerned.

@anunexaminedlife

Like the in betweeners with their printed t shirts on their first lads holiday. Lads lads lads.

When they got to the airport didn't they have to take them off lol

Yeah is all just 'bants', boys will be boys

It would annoy me, to be honest. Yeah I am on chats with some weird names but this feels a bit grim given it’s a stag event and you’re home pregnant.

@anunexaminedlife

Like the in betweeners with their printed t shirts on their first lads holiday. Lads lads lads.

Exactly what I thought of! I don't think you're being silly OP, but he definitely is. I'd ask him about it but how do you know what he's named his WhatsApp group chat?

Yuck. Goes to strip clubs on stag dos and thinks laddy stuff like this is funny. Not what I'd be looking for in a partner, and I'd presume he'll be out at strip clubs etc this time. Not sure why you'd expect him to be any different.

@anunexaminedlife

Like the in betweeners with their printed t shirts on their first lads holiday. Lads lads lads.

I think this is probably the joke! I wouldn't worry about this OP.

@Peach01

I can see why it would alarm you but men's group chats are full off regressive, immature boyish nonsense. All bravado and ego thinking they're hilarious. Not how they speak with their wives.

You're right to think wtf, have more respect. Especially with you being pregnant. There was a point in time I would've been worried by this if it were DP but now I'd think who you kidding don't flatter yourself but I'd still not like it and tell him.

He probably thinks he's being cool and naming it that to impress his friends but tell him you find it a cheek. Be firm if you don't want him near strip clubs or girls hanging around him. His single friends can do whatever they please. He wouldn't want it if the shoe was on the other foot.

Yeah you've hit the nail on the head. I think a lot of people would be so disappointed if they ever read their husbands WhatsApp's with their mates. And to be fair the group I have with my friends has similar immature nonsense at times despite the fact we're all in our 30s and 40s, not sure if my DH would be surprised if he read it!

He's 34, not 94, stop reading his WhatsApp messages and accept he's going to be an immature tosser at times like all of us.

One of my group chat is called "the slags" most are married. It's just a joke I'd say

Can you rename it Tossers? That might be more suitable. Brilliant idea 💡👏
It is juvenile but doubt its more or he has outed himself.

Are they all carpet fitters?

Lots of men IME call themselves shaggers, married and perfectly loyal ones included. Not a great thing IMO but an entirely common one in kaddish culture.

My girls group chat has the word “slags” in it. We’ve all been with our partners since like 18 years old hahaha, it’s not deep sorry.

If it were women it would be called something like Tarts on Tour . it's a joke.

@Jennyfromtheculdesac

You need to lighten up. It’s clearly a joke.

This, 100%

I couldn’t have sex with someone who title their chat ‘shaggers’. Twat.

"He can’t go to strip clubs at the moment but it doesn’t bothers me if he does,"

I keep seeing women saying this. Why on earth doesn't it bother you, to be married to someone who thinks strip clubs are an OK thing?

Yeah the strip clubs tells you all you need to know. The WhatsApp chat name is really the least of your worries but confirms his horrible laddish mentality. How he doesn't make your skin crawl is beyond me.

Unless there’s a big back story, I expect it’s just a joke name for his friends (given that he named the group). I wouldn’t think for a moment that this implies he’ll be up to no good... altho I would question his maturity

I doubt it's a joke when it's a group set up before a stag holiday - sounds much more like wishful thinking.

I think hes just havng a joke here TBH! I wouldnt worry about it unduly .Just his way of letting his hair down before becoming a first time Daddy!

I’m sure it probably doesn’t mean anything but I would totally lose respect for my dh if he thought that sort of thing was funny. I think I would have to refer to him exclusively as ‘Shagger’ from here on out. Even more so in company.