Neighbours and shouting

[Whatisthis543]

Our next door neighbours are having a blazing row and he is screaming at her and calling her all sorts of horrible things ‘c word, b word etc’

He’s also slamming around the house (terraced) and we’re a bit worried for her and the baby. DP says to keep our noses out of their business, all couples argue etc but I feel quite worried for her. AIBU?

It's standard to remove one of them

@TopBlogger

Dp should be bloody ashamed of himself then. They don't take people away for shits and giggles

This 100%

Well done you did the right thing. Maybe pop round today and offer support.

This happened to me as a tiny pregnant 20 year old my boyfriend came home paralytic and thought I'd locked him out. I was terrified by his out of control anger and the police were fantastic. My boyfriend was so shocked by other people seeing his behaviour he did change. I'll always be grateful to those neighbours.

You absolutely did the right thing.

They would not have taken him away if there was no issue.

Well done OP. Your DP is very, very wrong.

They might have given him a lift to stay elsewhere if he was willing to leave the property. So not necessarily arrested, unless he wasn't so willing to leave.

Blimey, I hope the poor woman and baby are ok! You definitely did the right thing.

You did the right thing absolutely.

He might not have been arrested but one of the things the police will offer to do us take one of you elsewhere to diffuse the situation. I had this.

You absolutely did the right thing op please don't doubt yourself.

Well done OP.

Your DP judged this poorly if he thinks it’s fine to turn a blind eye to this. Especially with a baby in the house. 🙁

Good job OP you did the right thing.

When I was growing up it was like this every night and neighbours must have heard, you can hear things being thrown and adults shouting at full volume between the walls. But no one ever did anything. Now looking back I wish they had.

As a pp says, it is standard to remove one of them to allow things to cool down so they were possibly taking him in the police van to stay at another family members or to a hotel for the night rather than into custody.

Well done OP. Absolutely right decision. Your dp was wrong.

Well done OP.

You 100% did the right thing.

Hope she's ok and the baby.

You did the right thing. I'm assuming they saw injuries or he became violent to the police so he was removed from the house immediately.
Hopefully she has family/Friends turn to especially with a small baby.
I would keep an eye on her.

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@Whatisthis543

Oh god he’s just been taken off in the police van! DP is saying we should just mind our own business

I think the fact your neighbour has been taken away in a police van shows that you did the right thing, not the wrong thing. Your partner is a fucking idiot.