Wedding suit drama - AIBU?

[Hopelesshostel3]

My best friend has turned into a complete bridezilla - so much so that the friendship will never quite recover after the wedding. As my opinion is pretty cloudy as it is just wanted to see who’s being unreasonable:

In MOH and my partner is buying a new suit as he’s gained weight over lockdown/wants to look nice on the day. He was looking in a shop recently and sent over a picture of a suit he liked. As I was with my friend I showed her it (I thought it was really nice). She’s said he can’t wear it as it’s a similar colour to what the grooms party is wearing. She also said he can’t wear a tie that’s the same colour as my dress as that’s also what the grooms party will be wearing.

Here’s my AIBU it’s a different style of suit, while it’s the same colour it’s different material/pattern and it’s a pretty standard suit colour. My partner is feeling pretty insecure he’s gained weight and it’s the first one he’s liked the look of. As he said, it’s an expensive outlay and he’ll be wearing it for other weddings/events to come.

Definitely change the tie.
Stick to the suit though. I’ve only been to a couple of English weddings and the guests wore mainly navy or grey suits.
Thank goodness for kilts.

[quote Hopelesshostel3]@Thingsthatgo

It’s been years since I’ve been to a wedding. Tbh it was my DP who thought it was completely acceptable to wear a matching tie more so we could finally get a nice photo together —I hate photos with a passion— but I think he’s got confused with prom. I was on the bride side but he was pretty certain it was a normal thing to ‘match’ your partner. It wouldn’t have been an exact tie, with different added colours/pattern[/quote]
If you weren't a bridesmaid then it would be quite normal and acceptable to match, so it's not a daft suggestion on his part, it just doesn't work in this instance. He needs to tone/complement and definitely not clash.

You do need to keep her in check a bit though.

Wear a complementary, but not matching, tie. Matching ties and dresses isn't a great look anyway. I mean if you're in fuchsia silk and he wears a brown knitted tie, it won't look great (unless you're the kind of people who can pull off some serious power clashing), so find something that doesn't mix terribly. But you don't need to match, and it probably will look better if you don't.

Nixing a navy suit is, however, ridiculous.

It's probably OK to "match" your partner if the matching isn't to the bridesmaid dresses.

Presumably that's what the groom will be doing!

“Please tell us more Bridezilla stuff that she's done... grin”

Second this, love a brideziller thread!

@Chailatteplease have a look on the second page - I shared some of the shenanigans then.

I really hate these threads where brides seem that dictate everything everybody does, thinks, wears or does for about 12 months before the wedding.
What happened to the bride just organising the wedding with input from her parents, the chief bridesmaid/maid of honour organising an affordable evening hen night. Life was sooooooo much simpler!!!!!

@Hopelesshostel3 sorry for the cross post, got a bit excited 😆

Honestly, I don’t know how you’re putting up with it. I haven’t asked anything of my MOH other than to come shoe shopping and to 1 dress fitting. Those things were only because she wanted to do ‘wedding stuff’.

Think it’s time to have a word about her expectations, before resentment leads to explosion!