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Original poster

To think my ex is being a creep?

48 replies

loopyloogg · 02/06/2021 15:57

I finished work today at 3pm.
I work on a industrial estate.
I'm driving out of the industrial estate and a few streets away from my building I see my ex walking up the road.
Now we broke up 7 months ago now and he lives 20 mins drive away.
Why else would he be on this Industrial estate.
I'm assuming he knows I will be driving down this road and wanted me to see him.
Aibu ?
Am I being paranoid here ?
My friend said he could have been going to a shop as there is other things (furniture /DIY shops etc ) on the estate but bit of a coincidence if you ask me.
Especially he knows what time I finish work.

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Aquamarine1029 · 02/06/2021 16:00

Just ignore him and make sure he's blocked on everything. If anything escalates, go straight to the police.

VettiyaIruken · 02/06/2021 16:04

I'd go with coincidence since it's one time.
If you start seeing him doing it more, then maybe.

But perhaps he has a new job around there, or like you say was headed to one of the other businesses.

I wouldn't jump to conclusions if you've seen him there once in seven months.

Original poster
loopyloogg · 02/06/2021 16:11

I just found it a very strange thing to see.
Of all the places he pops up when I'm finishing work.

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honeygirlz · 02/06/2021 16:12

Could you take a picture the next time/s you see him?

Original poster
loopyloogg · 02/06/2021 16:16

I could try.
So do you think maybe it was a coincidence?
He's never done anything like this before and or acted crazy.

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Nicknacky · 02/06/2021 16:17

If you start taking photos of him then it’s not the ex being creepy.....

honeygirlz · 02/06/2021 16:19

Could be a coincidence but if it happens again then I would be wary.

Original poster
loopyloogg · 02/06/2021 16:20

It just seems a pointless thing to do.
What does he think I will do..see him and fall in love with him again.

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pilates · 02/06/2021 16:21

I wouldn’t jump to conclusions as a one off but if it continues regularly then you need to be aware of stalking and get some advice.

Nicknacky · 02/06/2021 16:22

You are massively jumping to conclusions!

You have seen him once in 7 months and you assume he was there to see you?

PleasantBirthday · 02/06/2021 16:22

He's never done anything like this before and or acted crazy.

If this is the only concerning thing in 7 months, I think I'd put it down to coincidence.

Sn0tnose · 02/06/2021 16:26

If you haven’t had any issues with him for the past seven months and he doesn’t have a history of being controlling or abusive then I think you’re being a bit paranoid.

Original poster
loopyloogg · 02/06/2021 16:26

I know maybe I'm jumping to conclusions
I just found it weird that's all
Of all the places
Anyway I won't know for certain if he was trying to get my attention or not.

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PleasantBirthday · 02/06/2021 16:27

Are you finding it hard to get over the relationship or is there another reason you'd jump to this conclusion?

VettiyaIruken · 02/06/2021 16:30

@loopyloogg

It just seems a pointless thing to do. What does he think I will do..see him and fall in love with him again.
Maybe you didn't cross his mind at all. If he's not done anything stalkery before then just assume he had a reason to be there and it was nothing to do with you.
Original poster
loopyloogg · 02/06/2021 16:41

Maybe I'm reading too much into it.
I guess it's not like he is walking past my house or anything like that .

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Ellpellwood · 02/06/2021 16:44

Did he make eye contact? If so then he was possibly clocking the cars on purpose to look out for you. If not then I think you are being paranoid.

Original poster
loopyloogg · 02/06/2021 16:48

We did kind of make eye contact as he was trying to cross the road

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Thelnebriati · 02/06/2021 16:49

Keep a diary of all these types of incident, just in case. Hopefully it was a one off coincidence and you'll never need it.

VettiyaIruken · 02/06/2021 16:52

Always best to make eye contact when you're trying to cross a road, to make sure the driver saw you!

Is there a reason you're thinking he's suddenly decided to go crackers and walk down a road in the hopes of seeing you drive by?

Is it worrying you? If so, try to tell yourself the most likely explanation is pure coincidence. Flowers

Ellpellwood · 02/06/2021 16:53

I didn't really mean like that - peering into cars as he's walking along is different to standing still and watching for a gap in the traffic!

Original poster
loopyloogg · 02/06/2021 17:12

So the general consensus is I'm being a bit paranoid.
Maybe I got a shock seeing him randomly pop up there.
He is on my mind now after seeing him.

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Toottooot · 02/06/2021 17:14

Maybe he needs a new sofa or he’s buying some paint? To see him once and accuse him of stalking is ridiculous.

Original poster
loopyloogg · 02/06/2021 17:19

@Toottooot I'm assuming there's closer shops to him if that's actually the case

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Toottooot · 02/06/2021 17:22

If you’re making a big purchase like furniture, you shop around. 20 minutes is no distance to travel.