To think my ex is being a creep?

[loopyloogg]

I finished work today at 3pm.
I work on a industrial estate.
I'm driving out of the industrial estate and a few streets away from my building I see my ex walking up the road.
Now we broke up 7 months ago now and he lives 20 mins drive away.
Why else would he be on this Industrial estate.
I'm assuming he knows I will be driving down this road and wanted me to see him.
Aibu ?
Am I being paranoid here ?
My friend said he could have been going to a shop as there is other things (furniture /DIY shops etc ) on the estate but bit of a coincidence if you ask me.
Especially he knows what time I finish work.

Or maybe his new girlfriend works at one of the shops and he was going to meet her.

I guess there's lots of possibilities
Il see if I spot him again and go from there

I had a similar thing with my mil, I used to see her when my dc finished school most days when I took them to the park. I mean it could have been a coincidence but I felt the same, it is creepy and it is a bit wtf 😳 in the end I decided to find a different park. I know you can't just find a different job, perhaps a different route?
If this is a common occurrence I would keep note of when and where you see him to see if there is a pattern developing. Just incase.

What was he like when you went out with him? If he was stalkery or nutty in some other way, you may be right to be wary.

However if it just didn’t work out and it’s the first time you’ve seen him since please put it down to coincidence.

Well when we broke up I didn't treat him great I won't lie.
He sent me texts and I ignored them as I just couldn't be bothered to get into it.
So that's why I thought he might be looking for a reaction.
Maybe that's just me being paranoid a bit.

Massively paranoid!

It's a small world. Twenty minutes is no distance, especially if where you work is the nearest town. Are you thinking that he's been thinking of you for the past seven months and today had the idea to be in the industrial estate after your shift? Or do you think he does this a lot?

He sent me a text 3 months ago which I ignored.
So I know he has been thinking of me.
No I don't think he has or I'm assuming I would have seen him.

Sorry it was feb so 4 months ago now

Haven't RTFT yet but your first few posts strike me as a little narcissistic.
So you saw your ex out in public near where you work, presumably there are other shops so why is your first assumption that he's trying to make you fall back in love with him? Why can't he just have been doing some shopping?
Unless there's more to this story like he's got previous for stalking I really don't see the issue here

Shopping? Meeting a friend or girlfriend? Job interview? New job?
Theres a million and one possibilities, your taking it a bit far calling him a creep just for being in your area of work.

Over on Dadsnet there's a chap posting about seeing an ex girlfriend who treated him badly and ignored his texts, hoping she isn't stalking him when all he was doing was visiting some shops

@ImprobablePuffin not actual shops,it's a industrial estate.
There is a furniture warehouse and a DIY warehouse the rest are just factories.
So that's only 2 possible shops he could have been going too.

Jeepers. It’s not all about you, op. There are a multitude of reasons why he could have been there.

I would say that the poor guy was not there just on the off chance he would be able to see you driving past...

Seven months and no previous history of him being obsessive etc so I'm puzzled why you have automatically assumed he was being a "creep"

With your admission that you didn't treat him great when you both split possibly you're feeling a bit guilty and seeing him has brought it to surface but don't want to admit to feeling so?

As for the on off random text four months ago I'm sure many have done so during lockdown!!

As for claiming you know he has been thinking of you that is sounding very odd.... a random text months ago doesn't mean that at all!

I haven't just automatically assumed anything but it was strange him showing up two streets from where I work.
Of all the places it had to be there.

My partner told me that he was walking down the street in Australia when he was away travelling in his younger years and bumped into his next door neighbours 🤷🏼‍♀️. It’s a small world.

I’d put it down to coincidence and keep yourself aware for now.

OP LISTEN TO YOUR INSTINCTS.

That's it. If you think he's being creepy then you are probably right to react accordingly. Then you will be safe.

Listen to your instincts.

[quote loopyloogg]@ImprobablePuffin not actual shops,it's a industrial estate.
There is a furniture warehouse and a DIY warehouse the rest are just factories.
So that's only 2 possible shops he could have been going too.
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So he could well have been going in to one of those two shops.
Also if you treated him so badly why would he even want you back?!

@loopyloogg

I haven't just automatically assumed anything but it was strange him showing up two streets from where I work. Of all the places it had to be there.

FFS OP you don't own the bloody roads! Get over yourself, seriously. You sound so self focussed and self centred, he's probably glad he doesn't have to deal with the narcissistic behaviour anymore

He is allowed to exist in the world, specifically the area local to where he lives, after your breakup, without having to explain it to you

Anyone else want to know if he was there yesterday too..? 👀

Are you definitely 100% sure it was him? It might have just looked a lot like him? If you were driving past him and didnt stop to really take in his face you probably only had a few seconds to glance at him as you would have been concentrating on the road. I always find that when there's someone I would rather not bump in to (like an ex) then suddenly I notice people who look like them everywhere!