Right there is a whole backstory which you can read if you want on other posts but basically - my partner and I are both on anti depressants. We both had depression and PTSD.
My partner gets these “dark days” where nothing will cheer him and I just get my head bitten off if I dare try.
Today is one of them. I try to be patient - I really do. But it’s horrible to be in the house with.
I had some odd jobs to do this morning with my mum so he was in soul charge of our 8 month old (however she did nap for 2 of the 2.5 hours I’d left the house anyway). I came back and suggested we go out for lunch. Resounding no. I suggested we go open water swimming this evening with my mum as the weather is so lovely and exercise has really helped him in the past.
“No.”
“Are you sure? Its really helped your mood in the past!”
He started ranting and getting defensive - he doesn’t owe me any explanation about what he does or doesn’t want to do. He sounded like a stroppy teenager. I said I was only trying to help.
He said “I just want to be left alone.”
Fine. I start getting ready to take our daughter for a drive - I figure she could have her second nap in the car. He asks me what I’m doing, I say I’m leaving the house.
“How supportive!”
What does he want from me?! I try and do things with him and get shut down, I try and leave (because frankly the atmosphere when he’s in these moods is just awful) and I get called unsupportive.
Unbiased and wise mumsnet, WIBU? What was the right thing to do?
Just to clarify, when he’s not in these moods he’s a lovely, funny man who I’m so so so close to. We’ve been through the worst thing in the world together and our bond is strong. But when he has these days I just feel like I’m walking on eggshells and can do no right!