Why do my neighbours insist on sitting in their front garden?

[vnk21]

I am sure this makes me unreasonable but the incessant noise is giving me the rage.

I WFH, in an upstairs room at the front of the house. Today it's about 26 degrees here so I have the windows open. And all I can here is next door.

There's currently an entire family of them outside (mum, dad, and various kids). The parents have garden chairs out in the front garden and the kids are kicking a ball around - all of them are making a load of noise. Plus every time anyone walks past they have to engage them in conversation.

The houses in this street have small front gardens, Theirs is paved, and the size of 1 large car. Their back garden is at least twice the size. Why would you not sit out there?!

I'm not expecting silence, but the incessant shouting/screaming is so bloody irritating - especially when one of them goes indoors and they carry out a yelled conversation from the house to outside! First thing this morning it was lovely, birdsong and (because it is a relatively busy road) cars going past. But their noise is far more irritating than cars going past.

There's no solution other than closing the windows (and sweating in the heat) is there? Or hoping for rain.

I appreciate it's only a week and the schools will be back next week (so at least I should get some quiet 9-3), but I'm concerned they're going to be like this for the whole 6 weeks holiday which will drive me mad!

Cross posted with LucilleTheVampireBat!

We use our front garden, it gets the afternoon/evening sun.

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Though you was talking about me and mine at first 🤣
We have a small front garden and a huge back garden but our autistic son insists we go out and sit in the front so he can see the world go by 🤷‍♀️
Is happiness comes before nosey neighbours wondering the same as you 🤣

This will get me mightily told off but I just can’t help but think there’s something terribly common about sitting in your front garden.

Buy an aircon unit, close all your windows and switch it on, added bonus you can cool your bedroom when you want to sleep. I feel your pain, I have to work in my front room and NDN son screams like a banshee all day alternated with random growling
NB the screaming and growling isn't caused by anything in particular, just likes the sound of his own voice as far as I can tell. Our house is boiling as soon as the sun comes out so aircon on, blinds closed, sorted. And headphones if I can't stand it any longer.

Oh, I really should have read the whole thread. I’m not alone. rejoices in snobbery

@Onairjunkie

This will get me mightily told off but I just can’t help but think there’s something terribly common about sitting in your front garden.

More confused by use of the word mightily, and terribly. One would have been enough to signify that you consider yourself above being "common". Two was overkill. Mighty overkill.

@Onairjunkie

Oh, I really should have read the whole thread. I’m not alone. rejoices in snobbery

Why do you rejoice in being judgemental?

@Bluesheep8

I wouldn't use the term "council" but I do agree it's "common"

Why is it common to sit in your front garden though?

It’s common to sit and parade yourself, to slob about in public. It’s especially common to call out to people and force interaction upon them as they walk past. This also goes for hollering at people out of the window. It’s just bad manners to sit and stare at people as they go so it their lives.

Why do you rejoice in being judgemental?

Well, I was being tongue-in-cheek there, I’d have thought that obvious.

More confused by use of the word mightily, and terribly. One would have been enough to signify that you consider yourself above being "common". Two was overkill. Mighty overkill

Each related to a different clause in the sentence, so only one adverb each, which I believe is fine.

'just can’t help but think there’s something terribly common about sitting in your front garden.'

It's alright if there just quietly reading a book whilst sitting in the sun, not so much when they're shouting and causing disturbances.

Why on mn is there so much hand wringing over pointing out these things. It isn't an insult it is a fact, certain social groups tend to screech at each other up and down their street whilst in their dressing gowns.

It isn't an insult it is a fact, certain social groups tend to screech at each other up and down their street whilst in their dressing gowns.

but apparently when you don't enjoy these neighbourly and lively relationships, you are a judgemental arrogant snob 😂

'Each related to a different clause in the sentence, so only one adverb each, which I believe is fine.'

Absolutely fine imo. The pp must be very easily confused..

Which certain social groups do you mean?

@rabbitcow

Which certain social groups do you mean?

🙄

Well the ones that sit in their front gardens in their dressing gowns or pop to tescos/do the school run in their PJ's.

My NDN do this. Sit around their bins and scream at neighbours as they walk by. They are disgusting human beings though.

It isn't an insult it is a fact, certain social groups tend to screech at each other up and down their street whilst in their dressing gowns

It's more the fact people seem to label anyone in council housing like this. Yes, some probably do behave like this, and some won't.

My in-laws live in a very 'naive' village, and the house behind them regularly have slanging matches, alongside the wife who screams at the kids.

Are they 'council'?

It is probably south facing at the front, which is why they would be there. Noise tolerance is a very personal thing and one person's background noise can be intolerable for others. From what you are saying the noise does not sound unreasonable. I would maybe be looking to move my workstation to the back or perhaps work with noise cancelling earphones, i.e. ways of coping.

Each related to a different clause in the sentence, so only one adverb each, which I believe is fine

Thanks for the lesson but this is a casual internet forum, not english with 3B.

You also know exactly why the poster used those words. Snobbery is celebrated on here. No idea why. I suppose it helps insecure people feel better about themselves. Much like unsolicited lessons in adverbs...

@fashionablefennel

It isn't an insult it is a fact, certain social groups tend to screech at each other up and down their street whilst in their dressing gowns.

but apparently when you don't enjoy these neighbourly and lively relationships, you are a judgemental arrogant snob 😂

That's not what makes someone a snob.

What makes you a snob, is to use the term 'council'.

You have my sympathy OP, they sound awful. Have you considered getting some secondary glazing units installed? We have this in a front bedroom and it reduces noise considerably. I would not decamp to a back bedroom if that involves a lot of hassle and expense with re-routing internet connections, as chances are they will end up in their back garden at some point, being just as loud and annoying. Also, be wary of complaining, because no matter how polite and reasonable you are, they sound like just the sort of people who will deliberately make even more noise to annoy you.

Could you take a long break during the noisiest part of the day, then work for a while during the late evening/night? Maybe go out for a walk to enjoy the sunshine somewhere pleasant? What time do they put the kids to bed - presumably later than usual, during school holidays? Get a plan together before the summer hols, or it will be a very difficult 6 weeks for you.

You have my sympathy. I have dirtbag neighbours who do similar but we don't have a front garden so they put chairs out on the pavement and block my front door. They have their family round all day everyday, when it's not raining. Around 10 adults plus anywhere between 10-20 kids playing on the street. Adults all smoking and shouting to each other and kids. Kids screaming and kicking or bouncing balls.

They frequesntly have blazing rows as well and are all verbally aggressive. We are hoping to move next year. Some people are just selfish.

@LucilleTheVampireBat

Each related to a different clause in the sentence, so only one adverb each, which I believe is fine

Thanks for the lesson but this is a casual internet forum, not english with 3B.

You also know exactly why the poster used those words. Snobbery is celebrated on here. No idea why. I suppose it helps insecure people feel better about themselves. Much like unsolicited lessons in adverbs...

I do know why the poster used the words because the poster was me. 😂

I offered an ‘unsolicited lesson in adverbs’ because you expressly criticised my use of them.

Now, lesson number two, reading posters’ names...