To think this is weird behaviour

[Minime2]

My dh's behaviour is starting to get on my nerves (well it's probably been annoying me for years now...) and I find it weird...
Examples include: if I'm on my phone or on fb on my laptop chatting to a friend, and he comes into the room, he will say 'oh sorry I caught you doing that' ...
Caught me doing what?
If I show him a photo on my phone of something he will be very reluctant to look at it /shield his face in case he sees something else.
Earlier on, I was posting something relating to a hobby on Instagram and even though it only took 5 mins, he left the room with our baby...
I'm just kind of confused by this behaviour... Why would he behave like this? It's not like he's trying to give me privacy, it's like he really dislikes me doing any of the above... I just don't know 🤔

If you've tried talking to him I'd start agreeing with him

'I've caught you on your phone'
'Shhh phone man doesn't know I'm married'

'Oh sorry I caught you doing that'
'Phone man wouldn't have minded'

Reply "please.stop being weird" every time he does it.

[quote Minime2]@timeisnotaline he will go mad if I do that[/quote]
At some point you need to weigh up whether this relationship is worth it, as it doesn’t sound like a good relationship to me.
@StopSayingDueDiligence I’ve been happily married for over a decade now

He doesn't say it in a jokey way and he'd go mad if you increased screen time..

Doesn't sound good.

he'll go mad if I do that

Sounds like his controlling behaviour is working OP. Please leave before this gets worse.

A healthy relationship doesn't look like this.
He should not go mad if you chat to someone every day. Lots of people ring their mum or best friend daily, it shouldn't be an issue.

Maybe ask him 'what exactly to do you think I'm doing on my laptop/phone?'

It sounds exhausting tbh.

He's clearly jealous/ insecure and it all smacks of controlling, gaslighting behaviour to me.....
OR
he's judging you by his own behaviour....?

Tbf, we're a pretty low-tech family ourselves, so someone constantly checking their phone etc would bug me, so maybe he just doesn't "get" your interest in social media etc. Not that you're in the wrong, just that he doesn't realise that this is how many of us communicate these days?

He would go mad if you used your phone for 1/2 an hour a day?

There is your problem OP.

I see it completely differently! My first thought was that he has been taught not to look at other people's messages or to listen to their calls. My DH will never go into my handbag even when I ask him to as he has always been taught that a man should never go into a lady's handbag. Could be have just been conditioned to think that it is rude so he is making sure you know that he isn't doing it?

He'll go mad?

How does that look? Shouting? Throwing stuff? Making threats?