Family forgot my babies 1st birthday

[ImbarbaraB]

Am I being unreasonable in feeling hurt that nearly all my family forgot my child’s 1st birthday?

My parents remembered obviously and my sister but my brothers and all my cousins / aunties forgot

OP every one missed my son's first birthday because of lockdown 1, then every one was busy dealing with their own shit to make up for it.

Most people also forgot his 2nd birthday too but by 2 you realise that nobody loves your child like you do so they're just not really going to be bothered about things like birthdays. Just don't reciprocate.

Or do, and gently remind them that it was your child's birthday on X and you had a lovely time.

YABU, I wouldn’t expect cousins/aunts etc to remember.

I’d expect grandparents and god parents to remember and maybe adult siblings if there is a close relationship but that’s it.

Your child will be emotionally scarred for life that people they hardly know failed to celebrate a day that they didn’t even realise was a significant moment in their life so far. I would set up a go fund me immediately to pay for future therapy.

Did your child have a happy day, did you take some lovely photographs? Job done .

It depends on what's the norm in the family. I wouldn't expect my aunts and cousins to remember, my best friend would expect hers to. But they do a lot together and are actively involved in each others lives. They're a small family too.

Brother I would expect or at least a v contrite apology but then DHs brother is hit and miss for cards and gifts even though we always buy hlfor his. I've accepted it's who he is rather than anything personal

I didn't send my cousins baby a present for his first birthday and I feel awful. The last six months have got away from me and the intention was there. You've just reminded me to send something now, better late than never.