My daughter is 10 and has recently made a new friend and I'm struggling with how to manage this. This friend is actually lovely but her home life is far from ideal, school are aware and lots of involvement as an aside. But a few of the things:
Very dirty/ smelly :-( house very chaotic/ dirty
No supervision, goes wherever she wants and parents are ok with this, we live in the city
Mum is nice but dad very shouty/ seems drunk when I went?
Access to Internet with no boundaries, uses chat rooms where men have tried to in her words "chat her up"
Always late to school, walks herself, never seen a parent pick her up/ take her
Lives in a "troubled" estate, lots of antisocial behaviour
Knows about porn, i can't work out if this is from school or not
There are other things but these are the main things l that really concern me, I've emailed school about the chatrooms, as I find this so worrying!
I have let this girl come to our house and I take them to the park so they can play but they are heavily supervised but now I'm getting pushback about wanting to go to her friends house and the mum has invited my daughter for a sleepover. I don't know how to approach this as my daughter does stay over other people's houses I just feel very unhappy about this particular house.
Don't get me wrong, we are not perfect, our house can get messy, we eat shit ect but this is next level and I'm struggling with how to handle it!