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AIBU?

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Original poster

To wonder when they see their kids?

30 replies

Theneighboursareatitagain · 30/05/2021 21:18

Totally not being judgemental or jealous, I have a toddler of my own but am not one for going out loads these days.
On my social media, I’ve noticed every day and night for ages now, group of mums I know, acquaintances really, definitely not my circle of close mum friends, go out, drinking, restaurants etc.
For context, I’m not in the U.K. but in the Algarve and these are a set of very wealthy (some well known) mums.
When do they see their kids and aren’t they exhausted 🤣perhaps I’m just too much of a home bird these days.

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osbertthesyrianhamster · 30/05/2021 21:20

Good on them. It's their business. So what if you're a homebird, it doesn't make you a better person than they are. They do things their way and you do it yours.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 30/05/2021 21:21

Yes, you are being judgemental or you wouldn't bother to start the thread. I hated the toddler stage. If I would have outsourced it, I would have.

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Theneighboursareatitagain · 30/05/2021 21:23

Oh ffs 🤷🏻‍♀️🙄

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Hummingbirdblue · 30/05/2021 21:23

If they're well off, they pay someone else to look after the kids.

Maybe the kids are well behaved and go out with them?

Maybe their partners are actually capable of caring for the children they reared and allow their partners nights off/put.

Maybe you should join them.

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Theneighboursareatitagain · 30/05/2021 21:24

@osbertthesyrianhamster I hate the toddler phase too, their kids aren’t all toddlers btw
I honestly wasn’t trying to be judgemental but never mind.

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ThursdayWeld · 30/05/2021 21:25

Yes, you're definitely not being judgemental.

No mention of the fathers, I see?

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Theneighboursareatitagain · 30/05/2021 21:25

@Hummingbirdblue No kids not out with them, that’s what I’m saying. Husbands generally not there.

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Theneighboursareatitagain · 30/05/2021 21:26

@ThursdayWeld Husband’s generally away working

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osbertthesyrianhamster · 30/05/2021 21:26

You're judging htem and you want everyone to tell you how awful they are to feel better about yourself and when people don't you pull 'FFS' and PA emoticons Hmm. What's it to you? You do you.

IHaveBrilloHair · 30/05/2021 21:26

I'm judging you for judging them.
Beak out, none of your business.

Nicknacky · 30/05/2021 21:26

So they are out EVERY day and night in restaurants?. Wow I’m impressed with their stamina.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 30/05/2021 21:28

@Nicknacky

So they are out EVERY day and night in restaurants?. Wow I’m impressed with their stamina.
Imagine never having to cook fucking dinner. Bliss. I'm jealous.
arethereanyleftatall · 30/05/2021 21:31

I have no idea when they see their kids, since I don't know them. Neither do I care. Maybe all day every day?

Mojoj · 30/05/2021 21:33

Well jell. As I suspect are you....

ProfessorInkling · 30/05/2021 21:37

Maybe they see them during the 22 hours a day that they’re not out with their mates?

ThursdayWeld · 30/05/2021 21:38

"I'm not judging, but..." [grin}]

NicknamesAreLikeKleenex · 30/05/2021 21:41

If you can pay for unlimited professional babysitting then you can bugger off at 8pm and stay out with your mates until midnight every single night without missing a single precious moment with your toddler.

CharElizaaaa · 30/05/2021 21:47

They’re probably able to plan in advance and get childcare the same night as eachother..... and?

QueeniesCroft · 30/05/2021 22:11

I'd really struggle to care, to be honest. If it bothers you, just don't look at what they post. I am, however, very old and too tired to worry about what the young people do while I'm sipping my cocoa!

KellyJonesLeatherTrousers · 30/05/2021 22:20

Not sure what your AIBU is? The question I could pick out of your OP is ‘when do they see their kids’ and ‘aren’t they exhausted’. They could spend from 6.30am to 7pm with their kids and then go out for a meal, get home at 11 and get a good nights sleep. I do this a fair bit because I like going out to restaurants and I like catching up with friends.

Countrycode · 30/05/2021 22:26

Assume their DC are in bed no? If they're out drinking/for dinner? Wouldn't they have seen them during the day and gone out in the evening? I'm at home most evenings as my husband works late. If he didn't I'd be out most evenings/visiting friends etc. My Dc wouldn't even know as they'd be asleep?

WorraLiberty · 30/05/2021 22:28

Of course you're being judgemental, you just don't have the spine to admit it.

If they're acquaintances of yours, why are you asking us instead of them?

Flowers500 · 30/05/2021 22:37

FFS keep your judgemental crap to yourself

Totallyrandomname · 30/05/2021 22:38

Do they work? If not then surely there is time in the day to see their kids for hours and then meet up with friends in the afternoon?

In reality different people have different priorities and ideas about how they manage their family and time.

I don’t understand people who barely see their kids and I don’t understand people who won’t ever be without their kids EVER. Most people are probably a happy medium

littlepattilou · 30/05/2021 22:41
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