To be annoyed by this

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I am very close to giving birth (bloody hope so anyway) so I'm prepared to be told I'm BU and I'll put it down to the hormones, lack of sleep and spending half of my time either needing to pee or praying for the start of labour.

But my family have annoyed me so much. One thing I said I really didn't want was constant 'any sign yet?' 'Anything today?' messages. My mum phones me every day, she isn't completely over bearing and I know she's excited but some days I actually just don't want to speak. I wouldn't forget to tell her the baby was here and to be honest I'm not actually planning on telling her if I am in labour. She said she'll check in every day regardless and if she doesn't hear from me she will assume I'm probably in labour

She's now posted on Facebook to all of her friends 'fingers crossed for a baby this week' which was obviously followed by lots of 'oh hope so!' 'Not long now!' Comments. Can't be arsed with it. I'm so annoyed and hormonal. I want to meet my baby more than anyone but it'll come when it's good and ready!! AIBU to be in a massive mood with her?

Gosh- I remember this!! As if you'd not tell them- ha!
Nowt you can do I'm afraid.
Good luck for it all.

I remember that. People are excited but it’s so annoying and tiring.

This pregnancy I’ve told everyone in due 2 weeks later than I actually am 😂 that way I’ll hopefully avoid it all

It is bloody exhausting isn't it that coupled with the fact that people feel the need to tell you their horrific birth stories, it just makes me want to hibernate!

Oh I hated this! I was due near the start of the very first lockdown. My husband got so many messages too and just used to reply 'the baby is in lockdown as well' 😂

I really feel your pain as it is just so irritating. Switch your phone off and put your feet up. Hope baby makes an appearance soon!

They're being disrespectful of your wishes, so yes, YANBU to be irritated.

How about we tell you a few good things? Mine is that one of the best things about having given birth was that immediately my bladder capacity returned to normal.

In anticipation of how annoying this would be, I was very vague about the due date and gave the impression it was rather later than it really was....
But in the end this proved unnecessary as DD1 came on the due date, DD2 was 8 days early and DD3 2 weeks early!

Yeah but, any sign yet?

The next time she texts I’d reply saying “yes, he/she was born yesterday but we forgot to tell you”.

I’d honestly just straight-up tell them to leave you alone. Who gives a shit whether they’re offended and it’s because they’re ‘just excited’. 🙄 You’re entitled to some privacy, it’s your experience, not theirs.
People go absolutely batshit over pregnancies and seem to think you’re public property. It really, really pissed me off when it happened to me.

Does she live near enough your house to turn up on the doorstep if you didn't bother to reply to her or answer the phone.

Are you not replying because you’re currently having the baby????

Jokes aside, you’re not unreasonable and although I get they are excited, your wishes should go above that.

I also told people I was due later than I am, it stressed me out so much with my first. I felt like I was a show - and people were just waiting to hear and I hated it.
Sadly my timings didn’t work because I still got all the messages this time round. My MIL messaged constantly and I just replied ‘no’ every time 😂

God I remember feeling irritated by everything and everyone when I was expecting. Worse with my second. Even when my mum asked how I got on at the dentist lol I felt rage as she’s never asked me before at the age of 40 lol

I shouldn't of told them my actual due date 😩 I am really irritated and uncomfortable so nothing that anybody says is right just now, but I could really do without the Facebook well wishers 🙄 it is my/our baby after all, not my mothers!

And no, absolutely zero sign of a baby coming, not a single twinge 😭

Ah but the other option is "I'm heavily pregnant , haven't seen my own feet for months , praying every day for it to be The Day .......and no bugger cares . Not a phone call. Not a text . No How are you , any news . Just radio silence "

And no, absolutely zero sign of a baby coming, not a single twinge

Go and put on something nice . Silk or cashmere . Dry Clean only .
It'll spur the baby into action

You’re tired, irritable and being unreasonable. At least she’s interested. I’d have given anything for a mother who gave two shits. Be careful what you wish for.

Congratulations and good luck for when it does happen.

🙄🙄🙄🙄

Have you had it yet OP?

Sorry! I’d be annoyed too if I were you.

It is annoying, but no harm meant and just excited. It is difficult when someone close is pregnant not to pester them. Struggled not to check on my sister too often at the end of pregnancy don't know how I will manage when grandchild due and my own memories of this question being annoying have faded.

Get a grip. No one means any harm, they are just exited for you. It's not the end of the world.

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Get a grip. No one means any harm, they are just exited for you. It's not the end of the world.

Get a grip is a bit harsh..

I feel your pain!! This is why I didn’t tell anyone my due date when I was pregnant second time around!

Tell them that you've woken up today and you self identify as an elephant so it'll be a while yet. Being an elephant, you now have a gestation period of anything from 18-22 months so there you go. Announcements will go out in due time when your baby calf is born!

Drove me crazy on both of my kids. We'll announce it when we announce it now dfod!

When no one gives a fuck when it's here, and don't want to visit or babysit, or help out by cooking or cleaning if they do come, don't wonder why.