To only invite one twin to sleepover

[brushandmop]

Hi everyone,

Advice needed and hopefully can get some from mums with twins.

My DS has a good group of friends however he says he is closest to one in particular. They have similar personalities and have been friends for years. The boy my DS regards as his closest friend is a twin and both boys are part of the friendship group. We've previously always invited both boys to parties and play dates.

DS wants a sleepover at ours with the twin he is closest to but we are worried the other twin might feel left out. Space is a practical issue too. DSs room can only have one other mattress on the floor and we don't have a playroom/extra living room.

Is this something anyone else has faced or am I overthinking it? Both boys are lovely and we could have both if we had the space but DS is also only wanting to spend time with his close friend.

Thanks!

Does the other twin have another friend he is close to? It might be if you chat to mum, she can arrange for the other twin to have a playdate with a close friend of their own, this way they get independence but no one feels left out.

Hmm of they both usually come over do the 'other' two twins play separately? If so maybe you could squeeze them in,or your dc has a sleepover with the other twin the following week? I'm like minded in I hate to think someone feels left out.😀

Anothet vote for speak to mum. She may be keen to encourage them to be more independent and have their own identities and friends. This type of situation will likely come up in the future so she may appreciate the chance to use this as an opportunity for them to learm it's fine to have different interests and spend time one on one with the twin at home. She would also be able to decline if she felt it wasn't right for her twins. I am not a twin mum but can't see the harm in asking.

She may be keen to encourage them to be more independent

What makes you think she isn’t doing this already?

The non twin mothers appear to think that twins are a couple not to be separated, whilst the twin moms are says it isn’t an issue.

I think singleton moms need to change their approach to twins.

Mine were in separate classes and a fair few people didn’t know they were twins.
Even in high school teachers didn’t twig.

That’s because they are separate people and didn’t make a fuss of being a twin. They had shared friends, they went to different parties, they didn’t get upset if one was invited and the other wasn’t, that’s life! Same as their older sister didn’t get upset if she wasn’t invited ...