Going from 2 to 3 kids is the hardest family size to transition into?

[scandicandi]

I have 2 kids (3 and 1 years old) and DH and I would love a third.

We found going from 0 to 1 kid traumatic and then amazing. Going from 1 to 2 has been easy and so enjoyable.

But AIBU to think going from 2 to 3 is a different ball game as you are outnumbered?

Would love to hear other people's experiences.

@sapnupuas

I really wish I hadn't opened this thread. Currently pregnant with my second. 🤣

girl SAME 🥲😂

Surely it depends on the children? I imagine going from two good sleepers to a non sleeper very difficult for example.

I found 0-1 hard but not unexpectedly so. I found 1-2 a nightmare because of various reasons, it almost broke me

0-1 fine
1-2 very hard
2-3 really easy
3-4 fine

0-1 traumatic, 1-2 an absolute dream, 2-3 I’ve barely noticed due to lockdown! I feel a bit like I’m lagging behind my friends who stuck at two. They are all ploughing ahead with careers and doing a wider range of nice family activities. But otherwise it’s been fairly easy and I know we will catch up!

I found 1-2 hardest and 2-3 easiest. However we had small age gap with 1-2 and no2 was a really terrible sleeper. We had a bigger gap to no3 and the older 2 can occupy themselves a bit more so I feel less pulled in all directions. I love having 3- best (accidental) decision we ever made!

I found 0-1 the biggest shock, just learning everything from scratch. 1-2 was surprisingly easy and they very much entertained each other very quickly. 2-3 equally fine and just less to worry about as I was so much more confident.

Interesting...I found 2 to 3 the hardest simply because of the lack of an extra hand to hold on to everyone! Weirdly, 3 to 4 has been the easiest.

I haven't found it to be terrifically problematic -- I've found 2 -3 easier than 1-2.

I found 0-2 insanely hard (twins)
2-3 and 3-4 fine.

You do need to adjust your standards in certain things in order to manage the workload and avoid overwhelm.

0-1 quite easy 1-2 ds1 was 20 months when ds2 arrived so difficult when walking anywhere as ds1 was a bit slow and kept going up every drive to every house, also when he was too tired to walk he had to sit on pram seat which made it heavy to push. ds2 was 3 when dd arrived and she slotted in very well spent her life in the car seat as we had to take ds1 to school and ds2 to playgroup every day which seemed to take forever but they all got on very well. You just have to accept that you don't get much time to yourself.