If you had a chronically ill adult DC and you could help them never work again, would you ?

[justinadob]

Would you, if you had multi millions?

Define 'chronic'.

Stephen Hawking had a chronic illness. The world would be a sorrier place if he hadn't worked.

I would for my dds. Both have chronic pain conditions where they can't get a job, or if they could, wouldn't be able to work full or even part time.

From my perspective as the chronically ill adult child, I need to work for my mental health. I work in a very busy role and really need to maintain this as long as I can. If my mum (dad is a selfish shit) offered me millions to give up work I don’t think I would or at the very least I’d go back to uni/study or start a little business to keep active.

I don't think my friend would not work. But perhaps more of a part time thing, or a less stress / demanding role perhaps. I don't even think friend would accept the money from parents anyway.

But I always think about it when we speak. And I think about what I would do in the same situation. None of my business of course in any way.

@InTropicalTrumpsLand

I've been very mentally ill twice in my teens.

The first time at 14: generalized anxiety disorder after traumatic event. Several panic attacks a day, heavily medicalised, etc. My parents were fantastic: sought every kind of help, really facilitated things for me regarding school by going, explaining the situation, etc. I had a free pass to get out of lessons and talk to the school psychologist, could arrive later and leave earlier at school. Missed lots of lessons due to sheer panic. Was able to leave that school to my country's equivalent of sixth form with very high grades and a very generous scholarship to an excellent school.

Second time at 17: severe, severe depression, to the point my doctors warned my parents to hide sharp objects from me. Again: best help money could buy. New psychiatrist, at my request, which was private and wouldn't be covered by medical insurance. New psychologist, same. Talked to school, sometimes I would go for one lesson a day. That was celebrated, because I had managed to get out of the house. I was at a school system that required a minimum grade of 70% in all subjects to graduate, and I didn't get to pick my subjects: That year, I had 20 different teachers. I nearly failed Chemistry, and had to go to "summer school" to achieve that elusive 70%. I did, and I never saw my parents as happy as they were when I graduated high school.

I was emotionally exhausted after all that. So I asked my parents for a year off before university. They agreed, but said if I needed more than a year, I would need to find a part time job, seeing as many friends of my parents' had freeloaders for children and they were wary I might follow the same path. I didn't, of course. Eventually got accepted into the very best university in my country, and am now about to graduate.

So yes, if I were in my parents' situation one day, and I could really help my children, of course I would do so, because I can acknowledge how much my parents' help helped me before. Frankly, I'm not sure I would be here today if they hadn't done so much for me.

This is an excellent example though. Yes, as much support as humanly possible for your treatment and recovery but they didn't facilitate you never having to work. If they had would you have graduated high school and gone on to do so well?

If they really couldn’t do any form of work at all and I could help them I would. I’d imagine being unable to do any form of work is rare though.

If there were capable of work and just didn’t want the stress of it that’s different.

It’s not so rare Icecream - just imagine that you can’t use your hands and wrists because they’re so swollen, inflamed and painful as is often the case with RA. You can’t hold a pen, use a mouse, can’t take any weight whatsoever on them. In addition your feet and ankles are also in the same state to the point that you can’t stand for more than a few minutes at a time. What jobs do you think that person can realistically do?

@TwoAndAnOnion

Define 'chronic'.

Stephen Hawking had a chronic illness. The world would be a sorrier place if he hadn't worked.

If Stephen Hawking hadn’t been the genius he was what sort of job do you realistically think he would have done? Not even could have done....because sometimes it’s not just about the willingness or even capability to do something but how many employers would have employed him?

I have ME and for a few years I was too ill to work or even really leave the house.

I moved back home until I was well enough to work again. Don't know what I would have done if I couldn't have done that.

I have Multiple Sclerosis and Epilepsy. I work full time. If there is a will there is a way (for some).

@RoosterRaveUp

I have Multiple Sclerosis and Epilepsy. I work full time. If there is a will there is a way (for some).

That's really positive for you but it doesnt mean that it's the same for everyone, I have a job where I can work from home, part time and it is relatively flexible with lots of adjustments and its still looking like I will be medically retired as I am just off sick far too much despite desperately trying to hang on.