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What to do here?

44 replies

PiedPiper558 · 24/05/2021 11:47

Had a nanny for about 5 weeks, she does the morning and after school care.Kids really like her and she has been reliable and caring.
Now my eldest granddaughter has a change of school (previously all grandkids went to the same) the logistics of this mean that it will actually be easier to put the kids in the before school club (at their respective schools and DP may be able to go into work later) and then the after school clubs where I can then pick them up at 6.15PM.
This then means of course, no need for the nanny expect we will have problems on inset days and days when we need a later finish (sometimes we need till 9PM). What would you do?

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Bimblybomeyelash · 24/05/2021 11:50

I’d keep the nanny. I think 6:15 is very late to be picked up every day and I imagine the kids would be much happier at home
with the lovely nanny.

Fitforforty · 24/05/2021 11:50

What would you do when you need to work until 9pm and inset days?

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PiedPiper558 · 24/05/2021 11:53

Financially it makes a lot more sense to use the breakfast clubs at the respective schools and the after school club will work better as well. The problem is as I say the later finishes we need at times as well as the inset days. Feels a bit awkward to say we no longer require her services anymore either after such a short time. So hard to know what to do for the best.

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Bimblybomeyelash · 24/05/2021 11:58

What do you think the children would prefer? My kids like their after school activity clubs, but would hate to be in the after school care every day. And I would definitely struggle getting them all out of the house in time for breakfast club every day!

What are your plans for care during the school holidays?

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PiedPiper558 · 24/05/2021 12:02

I don't think there will be a problem getting them out the door in the morning. I also think they would enjoy the after school club as would only be there 3 times a week.
We are covered for the school holidays. It's just the inset days and school holidays which will be an issue.

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VettiyaIruken · 24/05/2021 12:05

Well, you can't really ask her to fill in those days only because she'll likely take a job where she's needed then.

OlivesTree · 24/05/2021 12:05

Can you easily afford the nanny? My decision would be based on finances. The nanny is going to be the easier solution and nicer for the kids, so if you can afford it if do that.

OlivesTree · 24/05/2021 12:07

Most working parents manage inset days and school hols with annual leave and holiday clubs, so you don’t need a nanny for that.

UserAtRandom · 24/05/2021 12:09

If sending the DC to breakfast/after school clubs makes more sense than of course you do that.
It sounds like you need a trusted babysitter who can pick up ad-hoc late finishes (and possibly the inset days, although you could always just take leave for them).

Have you checked that there are actually spaces at the school clubs? Some are really popular.

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PiedPiper558 · 24/05/2021 12:11

I'm sure there will be as the restrictions are lessening now with these sorts of things.
Just feels a bit awkward as she's only been here a short while and been very accommodating and obviously an attachment has formed with the kids. But I think the clubs are the better option overall.

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user1471457751 · 24/05/2021 12:34

Why did you hire the nanny in the first place?
It's a pretty crap way to treat someone. Change of schools don't happen overnight so surely you've know about this for a while. But you decided to go ahead with hiring the nanny anyway.

DDiva · 24/05/2021 12:35

Well if you need cover til 9pm sometimes then sacking the nanny and using afterschool clubs wont work will it ?

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PiedPiper558 · 24/05/2021 13:29

She was on a waiting list but we only found out last week.
We haven't treated the nanny poorly. She will be told if she is no longer needed although she has probably guessed this is now the case.
When they were all at the same school it made sense to have a nanny and because we were not sure if the clubs would be running because of coronavirus. Now we know different and things have changed.

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Hullish · 24/05/2021 13:31

You’ve obviously already made your mind up.

NerrSnerr · 24/05/2021 22:08

How would you cover the 9pm days?

Idontknowanymore05 · 27/05/2021 11:27

[quote VainAbigail]www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4255834-To-be-shaking[/quote]
This is exactly what I thought.

AbsolutePoppycock · 27/05/2021 11:29

@VainAbigail you beat me to it

VainAbigail · 27/05/2021 11:30

[quote AbsolutePoppycock]@VainAbigail you beat me to it[/quote]
😁

HotToddyColdSauvignon · 27/05/2021 11:32

Ha. Was just going to post to your OTHER thread were you’ve been (rightly) slated OP.

Don’t try and sockpuppet us

espressoontap · 27/05/2021 11:36

You're still in the wrong.

Funnyface1 · 27/05/2021 11:39

I hate it when people do this shit on Mumsnet. Go away op.

PerpendicularVincent · 27/05/2021 12:13

You don't need 2 threads about this, and it seems that you've already made up your mind.

If you prefer school clubs then do that- the way the nanny found out was insensitive though. What will you do on the days you need care until 9pm?

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 27/05/2021 12:17

I doubt she will want anything to do with you after the way you have treated her. Guess you will be looking for holiday and inset cover. Have you checked your contractual obligations with respect to hours and notice periods?

Lochroy · 27/05/2021 12:19

WTF- you're looking for us to endorse your shitty behaviour by phrasing it differently in this thread?

You don't deserve her to come back, but she probably will because she'll worry about a reference.

Awful, awful way of handling things.