What to do here?

[PiedPiper558]

Had a nanny for about 5 weeks, she does the morning and after school care.Kids really like her and she has been reliable and caring.
Now my eldest granddaughter has a change of school (previously all grandkids went to the same) the logistics of this mean that it will actually be easier to put the kids in the before school club (at their respective schools and DP may be able to go into work later) and then the after school clubs where I can then pick them up at 6.15PM.
This then means of course, no need for the nanny expect we will have problems on inset days and days when we need a later finish (sometimes we need till 9PM). What would you do?

PiedPiper558

You will have to pay for a babysitter and start treating people properly?

You are still being U, another thread doesn't change it.

How many threads do you have to start where you are being a dick and treating your poor nanny badly and looking for sympathy?

Selfish, entitled and assuming the nanny has no bills to pay, no life and is merely there to your whims and changes on hours and wants as the wind blows.

You are being a dick OP

@idontlikealdi

You are still being U, another thread doesn't change it.

Three threads where this person asks questions and is unreasonable to the nanny

Are you still shaking 🤣

@Lochroy

WTF- you're looking for us to endorse your shitty behaviour by phrasing it differently in this thread?

You don't deserve her to come back, but she probably will because she'll worry about a reference.

Awful, awful way of handling things.

id be happy to go without a reference in this case if i was the nanny ! shes only worked for these pisstakers for the equivlent of 5 minutes anyway

I was about to pull you up on your throw away comment around the baby probably having guessed by now. That is an appalling way to treat an employee.

But I see it’s been well covered in your other post

Frankly I hope nanny never returns but either way tell her tonight that you don’t need her and pay her her notice promptly and without argument.

Your DH was still a knob to announce it like he did in front of the children, phrasing your post differently will make that any better.

You’ve treated the Nanny like crap keeping her hanging on for a month and now considering finishing her after 5 weeks.

You’ve clearly already made your mind up, but for what it’s worth I think you are completely unreasonable treating her as you have.

Why did you employ a nanny? You must have known one of your children was changing school so why bother.
You have treated your nanny really badly and I doubt she'll want to stay working for you now.
Also what will you do when you finish late?

You're still a terrible employer. Taking out details doesn't change the situation.

That poor nanny. Hope she finds a better situation soon!

Op

I don't think you'll have to worry about the Nanny going forward...

You really are a delight.

Just stopping by (again ) to add this link

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/thirty_days_only/4237570-What-to-do-here

Least the op had the (relative) sense to post it in 30 Days!

Is this the same as another thread I've seen today?
Something about your husband telling her in front of the kids?

Keep the nanny for sure

How do you know for definite that there will not be another lock down this year?

What if the kids are sent home to quarantine?

At least wait and see until sept

Oh FFS OP. Wording it differently doesn't change the fact that you and your DP are terrible employers. She's lucky to be getting shot of you both. Let's hope the kids have some role models in their lives to teach them about respect as its clear they aren't going to learn it from either of you.

AIBU?
Yes,YABVU.

Starts new thread, changes a few details.
AIBU?
Yes, YABVU.

Starts new thread
AIBU?
NO MATTER HOW YOU WORD IT YOU ARE BEING UNREASONABLE.

Are you sure you've still got a nanny? She might have made the decision for you - and it'll serve you right if she leaves you in the lurch.
But how's the shaking?

@VainAbigail

My thoughts precisely.

The OP didn't like the responses on the first thread do has made a new one.

Are they children or grandchildren?

And why are you bothering to ask for opinions when you have clearly made up your mind already? It seems very strange to be looking for validation.

OP, you could have waited atleast a day or two before starting a new thread...and on the same aibu board.

Read your first post and voted yabu but didn't comment. Now reading this one and still yabu and it's obviously the same issue.

You and your husband owe your nanny a huuuuuge apology at the very least.