AIBU Father charging like a taxi service.

[rchblf]

Long story short my grandmother raised me. After 36 yrs I met my father for the first time. The last twelve months my grandmothers mobility has declined so my father picks me up and takes me to collect her once a week. I support her to get her shopping whilst my father sits in his car. He charges her £30.00 and expects his lunch bought(not a sandwich). The trip is a total 70 miles he drives a diesel car and only pays for diesel so he has no other car cost. My father also charges her another £10.00 each time he goes to her house during the week (1/2 times 30 mile). Im annoyed as I feel he should only charge the cost of diesel which all in after using an online cost calculator does not come to more than £15 total. AIBU as annoyed that I feel he shows no gratitude for her raising me when he just walked away and charging her in this way. If we had another option we would take it but as I dont drive and have mobility issues myself I feel he is using us.

He's a Prick

YANBU, he shouldn't be making money from her. Does she like going to the shop herself or could you help her get set up with online shopping deliveries?

Is your grandmother your fathers mother? If so he shouldn't charge anything as he should want to visit and help, especially as he's not been around for many years. Id never think to charge my family for any driving or visiting I do.

He is a total dickhead.

Make other arrangements even if it means a train/uber combo.

Just a scummy man. This post has made me really angry.

Would a mini cab be more expensive?

Does she get attendance allowance? If not claim this and pay for actual taxis!

Just order a taxi! Of course you have other options. Or online shop and save everyone the hassle!

I'd be doing absolutely everything I could to avoid using him, even if it meant spending more (unlikely?) on a real taxi.

Is he her son? So he didn't see his daughter or his mother for 36 years?

Get a taxi. At least that way you’re giving the money to someone who has a 50/50 chance they’re a dick, rather that the 100% chance your Dad is.

OMG, what a horrible man!. I agree with others, get a taxi or order online and don’t give him the satisfaction.

Online shopping is the way forward. Did this with my dad. Elderly people can be resistant to it but they are often won round once they see the benefits of someone just turning up with the shopping and bringing it into the kitchen. It's physically so much easier. If the spending limits are an issue, look at whether you can get a shopping delivery say every fortnight and book something like Milk and More to deliver milk and bread more often as top ups.

What a shit! I echo getting a taxi. I can't believe the gall of him. Sorry OP.

Sorry OP but I'd crawl through dirt with her shopping on my back before I'd give your Father all that money and bloody lunch on top.
Seriously, I'd pay my last penny each week to get her a taxi. Whatever the cost.

Echoing others here to get a Taxi .Also in our area we have the "Bat Bus" which collects old people and takes them to Tesco or wherever ,Door to Door for a small fee and delivers them home again. has your father had a bad RL with his DM in the past?

Could you use public transport to get to your grandmother's and then a local cab to get to the shop? She is probably entitled to cab vouchers if she gives up her bus pass.
You really don't need your scummy father in your life.

It is wrong of him, but is she giving him the money because she wants to see him? Especially if she has assets and the cash maybe she thinks that she would prefer to give him the money now than pay £5 for a delivery. If he is the beneficiary of her estate she would probably rather give him the money now and see him regularly than save her money and never see him.

He of course is totally wrong to accept the money but having left you as a baby with her he was hardly first in line for the World's greatest person award.

Sounds like he should have extra insurance if he's charging as a taxi service.

She gets a state pension and as she lives alone and cant go out she enjoys me taking her out once a week. I also do her cleaning, meals and laundry etc. The only reason he goes to hers without me is if she has a bad week and needs extra sanitary wear or essentials. Also no she is my mothers parent but she has past many years ago and there is no other family to help. I would happily get public transport but suffer with cronic pain and have children. Im just starting to feel hate towards him and god bless my grandmother when she passes, I doubt after him showing his true colours i will have any contact.

Thankyou something I didnt consider I will look into online food shopping. I would then be physically able to get public transport to hers and take her out for the day somewhere nice and not worry about carrying shopping and wheelchair.

God he's a right sponger!

Get her food shop delivered if u can and be there for when it arrives to help bring it in and put it all away. If she likes going out then can u get a taxi and take her somewhere for lunch. That wld probably be cheaper than £30 plus lunch when he takes her 😦

I’d definitely help her to apply for attendance allowance then. She can use it for a taxi or to pay the online shopping charge. Age U.K. will help with the forms.

Ditch him. Do her shopping online. Use that £30 to get her a weekly cleaner instead.

Cars degrade as you use them so it's not just about how much diesel costs.

@rchblf

Thankyou something I didnt consider I will look into online food shopping. I would then be physically able to get public transport to hers and take her out for the day somewhere nice and not worry about carrying shopping and wheelchair.

That’s a much better solution, cut him out of this completely

His car is on the mobility scheme. He pays nothing but diesel. Once every three years he renews the car and as he chooses an expensive car he pays £1200.00 which he saves over three years. There are no wear and tear costs etc.