AIBU Father charging like a taxi service.

[rchblf]

Long story short my grandmother raised me. After 36 yrs I met my father for the first time. The last twelve months my grandmothers mobility has declined so my father picks me up and takes me to collect her once a week. I support her to get her shopping whilst my father sits in his car. He charges her £30.00 and expects his lunch bought(not a sandwich). The trip is a total 70 miles he drives a diesel car and only pays for diesel so he has no other car cost. My father also charges her another £10.00 each time he goes to her house during the week (1/2 times 30 mile). Im annoyed as I feel he should only charge the cost of diesel which all in after using an online cost calculator does not come to more than £15 total. AIBU as annoyed that I feel he shows no gratitude for her raising me when he just walked away and charging her in this way. If we had another option we would take it but as I dont drive and have mobility issues myself I feel he is using us.

Is she his mother?

If she isn't his mother then I would just get the online shopping and cut him out of the equation most of the time. Then you can go and visit her and go for coffee or out to a park with her. Do you have power of attorney for her? You might be able to do the order yourself if you have access to her money.

The mobility car does cost him his mobility allowance, he would get that in his bank account if he hadn't chosen to get a car.

@rchblf

Thankyou something I didnt consider I will look into online food shopping. I would then be physically able to get public transport to hers and take her out for the day somewhere nice and not worry about carrying shopping and wheelchair.

That sounds excellent.

@RandomMess

The mobility car does cost him his mobility allowance, he would get that in his bank account if he hadn't chosen to get a car.

That happens whether he gives lifts or not. It's not up to anyone else to recoup it for him.

Erm yes I know but the car isn't "free".

He sounds horrible and mean.

Definitely get the online shopping delivered. Why is he even on the scene when she's not his mother? He's a sponging prick. You have no reason to have anything to do with him unless you really want to.

@Calamaribabe

Sounds like he should have extra insurance if he's charging as a taxi service.

Not just insurance. He would need to be licensed.

He's a prize prick, isn't he.

You are so far from the shops. Could you learn to drive so that this ridiculousness eventually ends? And you have more independence yourself?

Well, this appears to be a man who showed no interest in you until you were 36.

And you say GM is your mother's mother, not his, and she raised you.

I mean...he showed his true colours many years ago. Why you would expect this man to be anything other than a graceless prick I can't understand. He's not honestly a decent father, or a decent human being.

But you must have realised this in the past. Suddenly expecting him to be different is pointless. I'd stop having contact with him. He'll never become the person you'd like him to be.

Honestly i would stop asking him because he is horrid. Use online shopping and have it delivered straight to her home. You can take her out for a walk once a week instead use taxis if you need to. You can claim carers allowance for her, so do so.

He's a prick.