Would you tell someone to move on a train

[MinnieMountain]

I’m prepared to be corrected, this is more of a how much of a dickhead is this man being post.

DH and I are on the train. Our allocated seats are next to opposite windows with the aisle in between. DH sat next to me so that we were in the same airline seats.

A passenger got on and told him to move to his allocated seat as they are set up like that for social distancing for the staff, as he and his own DP are doing.

DH moved. Dickhead has had his mask off pretty much since he sat down (he is in my eyeline).

AIBU to think that if you’re that bothered about the rules, you really should obey them all yourself?

And would anyone else have actually said anything, regardless of what they thought?

Not been on a train since 2019 but surely you are allowed to sit with your own household. I understand the concept of not using the aisle seats but in an enclosed space surely it makes no difference?

It fucks me off when people sit in my allocated seats on planes or trains. The other man wasn't being unreasonable at all and you should have been embarrassed at having to be asked to move not angry.

LNER specifically say that if you are travelling as one household you can move to sit with the people you are travelling with, otherwise stick to your allocated seat.

Sounds like two wrongs not making a right. The train company doesn't want you using the aisle seats so allocated you accordingly. So your DH was wrong (albeit he may not have understood the reason for the seating plan). The other guy should have been wearing his mask.

No, I wouldn’t move, it’s none of the other passenger’s business and you are one household. Ridiculous.

@Twinkie01

What are you on about?
They weren't sitting in anyone's allocated seats.

@Twinkie01 he wasn't sitting in the other person's allocated seat though? He just moved next to OP which would've been an empty seat anyway.

It was none of his business and I would've told him so. And not moved.

@Twinkie01

It fucks me off when people sit in my allocated seats on planes or trains. The other man wasn't being unreasonable at all and you should have been embarrassed at having to be asked to move not angry.

It fucks me off when people don't read properly.

If some random member of the public tried to give me orders they would sure as hell get an earful from me!

Not in these circumstances, I’d have ignored him. Why on Earth would you do what some random punter on the train told you to do?

@Twinkie01

It fucks me off when people sit in my allocated seats on planes or trains. The other man wasn't being unreasonable at all and you should have been embarrassed at having to be asked to move not angry.

He wasn't sitting in a seat allocated to another passenger, but in one that was left free for social distancing. The train company's own rules say you can use them to sit with your own household.

Well you shouldn’t sit in aisle seats to allow others, including staff, to pass safely. I’d that’s what you did then YABU

Just tell him that he's right, you should be sat in allocated seats but that you do feel the need to point out his mask error

Just booked tickets a couple of days ago. You can sit with someone in your household despite seat allocation. I will be travelling with a 5yo whose allocated seat is several rows away so I checked specifically.

If I get a reaction like the above, I would just invite the person in question to report me to whichever authority they feel most appropriate.

I have booked train tickets for a journey in two weeks time. Very clear at the time of booking that aisle seats are to be left empty.

Two wrongs don't make a right. Though you could have clarified the matter with the train manager.

He wasn't sitting in a seat allocated to another passenger, but in one that was left free for social distancing. The train company's own rules say you can use them to sit with your own household.

Do all train companies have the same rules on this, or are some tighter than others maybe?

It depends on the train policy I think. Some of the LNER reservations are for aisle seats and you are able to sit in bubble groups. Northern didn't even require seat reservations and provides no guidance on where to sit!

Its a dickhead move to not sit in your allocated seats. I booked it for a reason.

@Babygotblueyes

Its a dickhead move to not sit in your allocated seats. I booked it for a reason.

Not the situation here.

Sorry, was on the tube.

I thought I’d get mixed opinions.

DH chose to move but my point would have been that GWR allocated some table aisle seats, so what’s the difference?

Anyway, I have sent them message so I know the rules for the future.

I've just been on a train for the first time in over a year (on the Calderdale line from Hebden Bridge) and there were no restrictions on seating at all, which surprised me somewhat.

Pre Covid I went to sit in my allocated seat. The woman sat next to me told me I wasn't allowed to sit there as she wanted the empty seat next to her. I just grabbed the reserved card waved it in her face and told her tough shite cos I was sitting in that seat. She spent the entire journey huffing and puffing in disgust

Surely as limited tickets are available it's better to sit in household groups as that means more room for those groups to distance. If that makes sense.

I'd have spoken to the staff available to clarify, there's bound to be a lot of bewildered passengers anyway.

He was right to ask your husband to move.
He was wrong to not wear a mask.

@MinnieMountain

Sorry, was on the tube.

I thought I’d get mixed opinions.

DH chose to move but my point would have been that GWR allocated some table aisle seats, so what’s the difference?

Anyway, I have sent them message so I know the rules for the future.

OP, if you get a response, please let us know what they say.