He just gets up and walks away as soon as he has finished eating at the table?

[CanIBeACurlyGirl]

AIBU believing the above is really rude?

DH has always finished what he is eating and then started tidying and clearing up even if the rest if us are still eating.

This evening we ordered a take away with our DC, eldest was visiting, we were chatting and generally sitting at the table and DH disappeared.

I don't understand, why do that? it's so rude.

Have you only just noticed? It is rude but you’re leaving it a bit late to train him properly. 😂

Unbelievably rude.

He must have been dragged up. Even in an informal dinner, I would at least formally excuse myself if I wanted to leave the table. Just fucking off to sit on the sofa without a word is very rude.

Yep I have one of these, even does it when guests come. He eats really fast without looking up or breathing. If I give him a look 👀 it's wasted as he won't even see. I've tried to explain manners but I think it's too late once you are grown up. It's hard to get your kids to sit when Dad gets up.

When I read the title I completely agreed with you but then I spotted that he's tidying round. I think that's quite common. Me or DH will start to tidy before the kids finish but we've all had a decent chat by that point. Sometimes we will sit for ages after food. Just depends on the mood of the day tbh. It would be rude to just get up and walk away completely though

I do this because one of my children eats slow and I'd be there all night so I clear other things away. Too busy to sit around waiting and I don't like mess

Imo it's not worth a fallout 😕 just say you'd like him to sit and chat next time

I think it’s rude

I think it’s very rude but on the other hand I also think it’s very rude to whinge about someone’s behaviour behind their back when you’ve never even articulated you have an issue with it. Both rude in my opinion. Neither is very nice.