6 year old used the word sexy

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Hi my 6 year old daughter came home from school and described a boy in her classes hair as sexy.
I’ve told her this word is not appropriate and I don’t want to hear it again. She told me that others in her class use the word.
AIBU to complain to her teacher and for the teacher to maybe speak to the children?

Or are you all eye rolling me?

As a family we do not use bad language and although the word isn’t a swear word I feel it’s not age appropriate.

Eye rolling!

It’s a word in everyday usage.

To suggest to a child it’s bad language is not helpful in my view.

Lol she’ll keep using it - all you’ve done now is give her a concrete reason to hide things from you. Well done.

I'm not eyeballing but I would want to have a conversation about it rather than saying 'don't say it'. Ask her what it means. Then tell her (in appropriate language) what it means.

It’s not ideal but not much you can do... I think that this is one of the tamer words that may come home via school tbh

Eyerolling. Or eyeballing.

Eye rolling. Sooo hard!

Sexy is not bad language, ffs!

What do you want the school to do?

It is only a word.

Another one for eyerolling, I'm sorry. "Sexy" is not a bad word, it's literally in Shrek.

Lol sorry OP but you're definitely overreacting!

Not eyerolling but I’m wincing for your daughter, who’s been reprimanded for saying something in innocence. Probably she half knew it was a powerful/“risky” word, and wanted to see how you would respond.

It sounds like you’ve been repressive and disapproving about it rather than open and kind/ready to explain. That will just teach her she’s better off not turning to you to find out more about things like this, and she will turn elsewhere.

I'm with you here, OP! I wouldn't be happy with my DD using 'sexy' at six years old.

why do you think that sexy, a word in most pop songs, is bad language

I wouldn't like it either OP, sexy means sexually attractive, not something associated with 6 year olds. I would ask her what she meant, pick one of the synonyms she uses and say that's a much nicer word, sexy is a word for grown ups. I wouldn't involve the school unless she said classmates were calling her sexy

She's six years old, it's highly likely she heard a child at school use it and thought she'd try it out.

Just be thankful it was such a mild word and not one of the other words she probably hears at school all the time.

The word sexy is used in all sorts of situations nowadays to describe all sort of things.

As pp said, you have a long road ahead of you and it's going to be very hard if you overreact at every little thing like that.

She probably won't stop using the word, she'll just make sure she doesn't use it in front of you.

And as she grows up she'll learn that there will be a whole raft of things she can't tell you about.

Sometimes it's better to ignore things you find inappropriate.

I agree with you OP. I wouldn’t like my 7 yo using sexy as a descriptor. I think you’re right to push back.

I agree with you. Probably wouldn’t complain to the school but @KingdomScrolls advice sounds about right.

I actually agree with you, OP. I wouldn't want my 6 year old describing something as sexy. Not because it is bad word but just because it isn't really age appropriate, as you said. Although I fully appreciate kids will hear things from other kids or songs on the radio etc - that's just a part of life and growing up. So I wouldn't talk to the school about it but I'd just tell her to ask you if she doesn't know what a word means, rather than using it and maybe getting into trouble. There will be plenty, far more questionable words coming home that I'm sure you'd rather she asked you about - just have to work out a way of explaining them... 😆😅

Sure it wasn’t Saxon?

Either way, not a big problem.

Thanks everyone for your honest advice. I haven’t told her off I have a very relaxed open relationship with my child. I’ve just explained it’s a grown up word.
I won’t contact her teacher - I can see most people agree that that would be over reacting.

The word sexy is describing someone as sexually attractive so I don’t think this is appropriate.

Tell her what it means and she'll stop using it. (She doesn't need to know what sex is but she won't want people to think that she loves his hair in a romantic way) Teach her some cooler slang that means awesome like "sick"

It's not really bad language. It appears in programmes that are considered family shows like Britain's Got Talent although I suspect that the kids who use it are watching older content on YouTube.

DD7 Returned from school last week with the word 'sexy' (she'd no idea what it meant, but a classmate with an iPhone and free and easy rein to TikTok etc did.
DD went one further, calling me 'SexyLexi' (Alexandra) and refusing to call me Mummy. She just likes the rhyme and my horror when she says it. Everyone else will assume it's ironic.