To say I don't want to go on this "date"?

[sunblowman]

I had a first date with a guy two weeks ago it was meant to be a couple of drinks.
He got so drunk and was slurring his words,wobbly on his feet etc.

Anyway my friend said give him another chance.
So said we can meet tonight.
Now he's said we can go on a pub crawl in the city centre.
I really don't feel this is a date.
It's gonna be him getting drunk again.

Aibu to suggest a meal and a couple of drinks instead?
It's chucking it down with rain,I don't want to walk bar to bar hoping there's a table.

I wouldn't go at all.

If a bloke hasn't got the ability or decency to stay sober on a first date, I can only see things getting worse.

Just to don’t go. You don’t have to give anyone a second chance date if you don’t want to

@Choice4567

Just to don’t go. You don’t have to give anyone a second chance date if you don’t want to

This with bells on.

Discounting the first date al little, Do you like him enough to go on a second date? Doesn’t sound like you do. I wouldn’t go on a pub crawl given the circumstances

Just cancel, you clearly don't want to go and he sounds as if he has quite a serious alcohol problem.

You never owe anyone a second date.

You don’t have to give him a second chance at all!!!!

I agree that someone who behaves like this is not someone you would want to spend any time with.

He has proven how he gets his kicks by suggesting the pub crawl. Apart from anything else he sounds boring and thick! Why would you??

God no.
Bollocks to this second chance shit women get guilted with

No. Pub crawl in the rain sounds like hell.

Is it bad I just fancied a nice night out?
I haven't been out to a restaurant in about 8 months 🙈

I wouldn't go. Maybe (very small possibility) he was just so nervous the first time that he got drunk and its completely out of character for him.

Suggesting a bar crawl shows that's not the case. Get rid

Why? Why on fucking earth would you give him a 'second chance'?

I’d cancel. I love dinner and a couple drinks but I’m not a big drinker. I’d have zero interest in a pub crawl with friends, never mind a date.

Move on and don’t look back

FFS, ditch both him and this friend who's got standards so low a flea could limbo under them. You are NEVER obligated to give ANYONE a second chance, a date or a relationship for ANY reason. Not a one. You don't owe anyone that. Honestly just stop hanging out with low lives who try to bully and boss you around - they are no friends at all.

Cancel, block and delete this immature tool who is still acting like he's 18 on dates.

Don't even tell the friend. Get rid of her, too.

Hang round here and get some higher standards when it comes to dating.

Don't go. Or go for the first couple of pubs then leave. But you don't have to give him a second chance.

Go to a restaurant with your friend and ditch this bloke.

I feel like bar crawls are not really a thing you can do at the moment but in any case just don't go. You didn't like him. Take a friend out for dinner instead.

I would definitely make my excuses & not see him again! At this early stage he should be thinking about what you'd like to do & trying to impress you!

I could maybe think the first date was nerves and accidentally drinking to much after having not been out in ages. But suggesting a bar crawl suggests it’s typical of him and not what I’d want to do.

Well, you gave him another chance and he's already blown it. Your desires (dinner vs piss-up) are incompatible. Call it off now with no qualms.

Cancel the cheque date

If he's wanting to get plastered on the first and now second dates, imagine how a relationship would be. Life with a drunken man child who will likely prioritise his social life getting drunk over home and family responsibilities.

Now I'm all for second chance dates, but no one is entitled to one. I once went out with a man who took me to a pool bar, couldn't drink because he was driving so I couldn't relax and have a drink either, and he then beat me at pool 12 times in a row because I couldn't play and didn't like it. What an awful date. But as he was a nice chap I gave him a second chance. 17 years, 3 kids and one wedding later I'm glad I did, but if he'd have got drunk instead I'm sure I'd have a very different life now.

He sounds tiresome. Invite a friend out and have a great evening instead!

I would say. ‘Pub crawl? I’d rather not’. I wouldn’t suggest anything. Let him re suggest. I always think it’s interesting to see what men plan in the early days for dates. Gives you big clues about what any future with them might be like. In his case probably a lot of drinking and pub going with and without you

Don't bother.. if you started a relationship you would be back on MN stating he's an excessive drinker and berating yourself for ignoring the red flags.

Dump this one and focus on getting a decent date or go out with a friend.

Raise your standards you deserve better than someone who can't stay sober on a first date.