I am wondering if there are others in this situation and whether it is reasonable to feel like this.
My parents live around 150 miles away. Prior to covid we saw them 3 or 4 times a year. The last time we saw them was December 2019 as since covid started they say have been too worried to meet. I was largely okay with this although last summer I did suggest an outdoor meet up or us all isolating for 2 weeks before but they declined.
It is making me feel sad as I have an older autistic son who asks daily to go to Grandad's house and a 1.5 year old who they have only seen once since he was born. Last year they said they would wait until they were vaccinated to see us. They have now had both vaccines but say they are now too worried about the Indian variant to meet.
I am wondering whether just to give up on our relationship. I call them a couple of times a week on skype so they can see the LO but they never call me. When questioned they say it is because I am busy and it is better I call when free.
They don't have any risk factors other than age, they are in their late 60s/early 70s. They have been going shopping and for walks but not much else and still wipe everything down.
If they are not willing to meet now I don't know when they will ever feel safe enough. It is just making me feel very sad. I have no other family and we don't see our inlaws much either but this is because they cannot do long car rides so we have to travel to them and they have no spare bedrooms.