To ask what time you would consider 'about the middle of the day' is?

[BlueLobelia]

Context - I am doing a colleague a favour by handing over an item to a friend of hers and acquaintance of mine. Acquaintance lives about 15 minute drive from me, but farther away for colleague.

3 times this week i have texted acquaintance to say I could drop the item off at hers as I would be going past. Each time she has replied to say she could not guarantee to be in. Finally on Friday she said she would pop by and pick it up from me, today. I asked her what time and the response was 'about the middle of the day'.

Now, admittedly I get up early but I consider 'about the middle of the day' to be between say 11 am and 13.30.

I am getting more annoyed not least because she has turned her fucking phone off and I need to go to the shops which close in 20 minutes.

So, AIBU to ask what time others would consider 'about the middle of the day' to be?

(I am not going to ask AIBU to fuck off out and she can fuck right off? because demonstrably the answer would be no, IANBU).

Anyway, I AM off out now....

Midday is 12 IMO

I wouldn't worry. Carry on your life. If she comes and you're out then tough luck.

@Furball

I'd be handing it right back to your colleague saying all of this and you're really sorry but you can't guarantee you'll be about this week.

Me too

And yes, 12 - 2.

12-2

What's that saying, never a good deed goes unpunished?

You're more patient than me. I think I'd have gone to the shops at about 2 pm.

I would've thought about 3pm because that's the middle of my waking hours of the day? But the vagueness is annoying. It's like when people say after lunch... well 1. I don't know what time you have your lunch at and 2. Technically 11.30pm is still after lunch, just give me a bloody time.

To me the middle of the day is 12 - 12:30...anything later is early afternoon. Then there is the middle of the afternoon (3:30 - 4pm) any time after that is late afternoon and then we're into early evening.

I am bad at vagueness. I pin people down.

I would send msg="I should be there in about 25 minutes (or "at 1pm"). Is that ok?"

Then depart only after they confirm ok

@LookItsMeAgain

To me the middle of the day is 12 - 12:30...anything later is early afternoon. Then there is the middle of the afternoon (3:30 - 4pm) any time after that is late afternoon and then we're into early evening.

That is pretty much exactly how i divide things up in my head too.

I would say 11-12, but generally anything after 1 would be early afternoon and 3pm is mid-afternoon...

11-2*

Should check before I press post!

I also hate vagueness. I like a time and I like to be on time.

i just had a thought about maybe when I texted her this week and she said she could not guarantee to be in it was her view I should pop by anyway on the off chance. But I have re-read the texts and no, I think I am right that she meant 'don't come by'.

Anyway, it's not my problem anymore. Item back to colleague on Tuesday when I am back at work.

I know this is missing the point but I agree "the middle of the day" is just so vague, "early afternoon" at least has a marker of time to it.

My kids are up so early by 10am I think it’s just be the middle of the day!!

Did you give it back BlueLobelia?

Hello! No i take it back tomorrow as I am not at work today. The text was read, and no reply sent so i am going with the 'not my problem' component of the episode. :)

(tempted to bloody keep it though branded clothing item )