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Original poster

To ask what time you would consider 'about the middle of the day' is?

65 replies

BlueLobelia · 16/05/2021 15:41

Context - I am doing a colleague a favour by handing over an item to a friend of hers and acquaintance of mine. Acquaintance lives about 15 minute drive from me, but farther away for colleague.

3 times this week i have texted acquaintance to say I could drop the item off at hers as I would be going past. Each time she has replied to say she could not guarantee to be in. Finally on Friday she said she would pop by and pick it up from me, today. I asked her what time and the response was 'about the middle of the day'. Hmm

Now, admittedly I get up early but I consider 'about the middle of the day' to be between say 11 am and 13.30.

I am getting more annoyed not least because she has turned her fucking phone off and I need to go to the shops which close in 20 minutes.

So, AIBU to ask what time others would consider 'about the middle of the day' to be?

(I am not going to ask AIBU to fuck off out and she can fuck right off? because demonstrably the answer would be no, IANBU).

Anyway, I AM off out now....

OP posts:
Blackdog19 · 16/05/2021 16:13

I’d be fed up now, if she turns up when you’re back home I’d pretend to be out!

AlCalavicci · 16/05/2021 16:13

In your context I would say between 11.30 and 2pm but no later than that .
There is no way 3.45 is mid day , mid afternoon maybe . . . . .

maddiemookins16mum · 16/05/2021 16:14

1pm (ish).

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 16/05/2021 16:17

11.30am - 1.30pm

Can you dump it on her doorstep or stick through the letterbox?

ContinuousMonotoneBeep · 16/05/2021 16:20

12pm

ItsAlwaysAFriendNeverMe · 16/05/2021 16:23

Middle of the day is exactly 12 noon, for me.
Ranging between 11.30 and 1.30pm.

ItsAlwaysAFriendNeverMe · 16/05/2021 16:24

sorry that was meant to say 11.30am and 12.30pm. not 1.30pm.

thebear1 · 16/05/2021 16:27

I see it as lunchtime, so between 12 and 2 pm.

Original poster
BlueLobelia · 16/05/2021 16:28

Thanks. I am back. I texted and said that I was going out and as I had a bit of a week ahead I would give the item back to my colleague and she could sort out logistics from there.

The only reason i volunteered to help out was because I go almost right past her door 4 times a week.

(I would have dumped it on the door, but it's valuable and would worry me that it might get stolen).

She has not read the text yet and I am bloody tempted to dive behind the sofa and stay quiet if she knocks at this point.

OP posts:
Gwenhwyfar · 16/05/2021 16:29

Lunchtime.

Bluntness100 · 16/05/2021 16:30

Mid day is twelve noon.

ElderMillennial · 16/05/2021 16:31

Middle of the day I would say lunch time. It's a weird thing to say, surely you would say "12ish" or "12-2 but j can text you before I set off"

She sounds like hard work

Does she not want the thing?

tiredanddangerous · 16/05/2021 16:34

Middle of the day = midday = 12 in my eyes.

Original poster
BlueLobelia · 16/05/2021 16:35

@ElderMillennial

Middle of the day I would say lunch time. It's a weird thing to say, surely you would say "12ish" or "12-2 but j can text you before I set off"

She sounds like hard work

Does she not want the thing?

I agree it's wierd. I assume she wants it- she bought it off my colleague. Maybe she has not paid yet or can't pay or something. [shrugs]

I am more annoyed with myself for not setting out my boundaries after she fobbed me off 3 times. ( am really NOT good at setting my boundaries). TBF I did not have all that much planned today, but I'd like my lack of plans to go by my timetable!! Grin

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the80sweregreat · 16/05/2021 16:36

12.00 midday

Disfordarkchocolate · 16/05/2021 16:36

On a Sunday between 12 noon and 2 pm. Other days it would be by 1:30 pm at the absolute latest. If I was coming to you it would be close to 12 noon.

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 16/05/2021 16:37

My guess? I would think 12 to about 130...

If I was the (daft flakey) person picking this up, when you are doing a massive favor, I would be texting an exact time (ie plus or minus 5 mins) when I would be collecting...and thanking you profusely...

So you weren't inconvenienced....

I would deffo be handing this bakc to your colleague... Detail that you've called her x times and every time she's batted it back, and then didn't show up when she arranged this with you...

Obvs this person is not too interested im this valuable item Confused

I've been caught out like this, several times, ... I'm now much more muscular in my responses to these time wasters....

ChristmasFluff · 16/05/2021 16:45

I voted YANBU, but I think you are being unreasonable to take this responsibility on your shoulders.

Do not run your life around the acquaintance. If you are not in, then ask friend what she would like you to do, given that acquaintance is being a PITA

If you happen to be in when Entitled Person calls, point out how much of an Entitled Person they have been.

Tambora · 16/05/2021 16:48

The middle of the day is in between late morning and early afternoon.

Smile
tuttifuckinfruity · 16/05/2021 16:49

Glad you went to the shops and good on for you for sending message saying you're handing it back to colleague.

Do you have a back garden. Just hang out in the garden so you don't even hear her if she does turn up

Seldon · 16/05/2021 16:52

Funnily enough, I would put middle of the day from 1-3.

I think if you think it means work day or knock-on door day.

Work day is 9 to 5, which puts the middle at 1pm.

Knock-on door day is 8am to 8pm. The middle is then 2pm.

Coldwine75 · 16/05/2021 16:54

about 12

Original poster
BlueLobelia · 16/05/2021 16:57

@Seldon

Funnily enough, I would put middle of the day from 1-3.

I think if you think it means work day or knock-on door day.

Work day is 9 to 5, which puts the middle at 1pm.

Knock-on door day is 8am to 8pm. The middle is then 2pm.

I like the differentiation between work day and knock on door day!!

anyway, the text has not been read (or at least there is no green tick on it) and as it is now almost 5 pm I think this cannot be considered by any stretch 'about the middle of the day'.

I am less irritated now though. Grin

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threeteenstaximum · 16/05/2021 16:57

@BlueLobelia

Thanks. I am back. I texted and said that I was going out and as I had a bit of a week ahead I would give the item back to my colleague and she could sort out logistics from there.

The only reason i volunteered to help out was because I go almost right past her door 4 times a week.

(I would have dumped it on the door, but it's valuable and would worry me that it might get stolen).

She has not read the text yet and I am bloody tempted to dive behind the sofa and stay quiet if she knocks at this point.

Yes YANBU Your friend is being obtuse. Middle of the day is 12-1pm.

3pm isn't middle of the day. Don't wait in, drop it off outside her house with a text "I waited for you and you didn't come round middle of the day so I have dropped it off in your doorstep"

Or tell her a time to come collect it "between 6-7pm tonight please"

threeteenstaximum · 16/05/2021 16:58

Oh, you've arranged to give it up a colleague whom she can collect from.

Your friend was messing you around , I can imagine how annoying that was