To not want my DS to have his name shortened?

[Saibuter]

I've namechanged as this will be outing. My son is 5 months, his name is Lucas. He was born a few weeks before we went back into lockdown so he didn't meet any family apart from my mum (I live with her) and my partners mum (he was living with her but now he's moved in with me to do more with DS).

Last weekend, he met my some of my partners family and they kept shortening his name and were calling him Luke and 'Lukey' we don't want his name shortened as a baby, obviously when he's a child he can decide for himself. A few of my family members have also called him Luke.

WIBU to tell them to call him his proper name or will it seem like I'm overreacting?

YANBU

I remember my aunt constantly saying “he’s called Steven not Steve!!” When my cousin was a baby…. She would say it to anyone, family, friends, other parents…. Steven is now 21 and no one dares to shorten his name (in her presence😂)

Just correct them. It's not being precious it's his name.
My son is Michael or Mike both acceptable but when he started working his colleagues all called him Mikey I hated it if I rang (to use their services not ringing as his mum) and they would shout Mikey he's a grown adult and that just sounds ridiculous. Not really relevant but op reminded me of it.

Oh, my MIL tells me off if I call my bil Gav instead of Gavin in front of her. He's 50!

Like someone else said just use Lucy's in front of them

Lucas not Lucy's... bloody autocorrect

If it bothers you keep correcting it but I think it’s natural really. When I read the name I assumed you were unhappy about it being shortened to Lou, so it could be worse!

I was going to come on and say unfortunately no matter how hard you try and make sure it don’t happen people will always shorten a name. That was until I saw the name Lucus. I know a few lucus and they never have their name shortened to Luke I see it as a different name entirely. I would pull people up every time they do it.

My name always gets shortened and I literally hate the shortened version. Annoys me when I meet someone new and literally in 5 minutes they shorten my name when I have introduced myself as full name. I find it very rude.

@whattodo2019

i can't see how Lucas can be shorted to Luke?? i would be furious too

nope, not a clue where they got Luke from, how ridiculous!

WIBU to tell them to call him his proper name or will it seem like I'm overreacting

Personally I would secretly think you were overreacting but I wouldn't say anything and I would call them their name as you asked.

Although I do agree with others in this instance that Luke and Lucas are two different names.

I can see how Lucas would be Luc which sounds the same as Luke.

Personalised T shirt? And put it on him whenever you see your relatives....
My ds was Jordan many years ago. His dgm decided Jock was the name that came from it!!

YANBU-I have son, now in his 20's, whose name was constantly shortened as a baby and it bugged me. I always made a point of using his full name, although I don't think it really made any difference to anyone as it is such as common name and so many others used the short name for themselves.
When he reached secondary school, he liked the shortened version more, as there were lots of boys with that version. So he now has a home 'long' name and a 'friends/work' short name and it's ok.
Some people are ridiculous about shortening-I have a friend, Steve who gets called 'Ste'

@alwayswrighty

Oh, my MIL tells me off if I call my bil Gav instead of Gavin in front of her. He's 50!

Like someone else said just use Lucy's in front of them

I was coming on to say this! My MIL corrects anyone who shortens my husband's name EVEN THOUGH he introduces himself with the shortened one.

She's decided this is a battle she still wants to pick and he's in his mid forties now.

It makes her sound so precious and affects how people view her.

Totally different names. I know a Lucas who is 19 and his name has never been shortened. Correct them every time

I understand why you don't like this, and reasonable to challenge anyone who does this. However, perhaps as my parents did, you could have chosen a name which is rarely if ever shortened. Perhaps a thought for any more children if you have them.

I know two Lucas' and have never heard them being shortened to Luke. They're totally different names IMO.

I have a short name and it still gets shortened. Drives me absolutely mad.

YANBU. Tell them his name is Lucas, not Luke.

It’s not a totally different name as Luke is the anglicised version of Lucas. However, while Luke was a popular name in the 80s and 90s, Lucas is way more popular now. It is also very easy to say.

Don’t think there’s much point in saying anything; just keep using it in their presence. As they hear it regularly both with your DS and other boys, they might start to use it themselves.

@UCOinanOCG

I can see how Lucas would be Luc which sounds the same as Luke.

Exactly what I would say, phonetically Luke, but probably they see it more as Luc. There's probably a distinction between adults and kids - you can't really control what name kids choose to call other kids at school (and they sometimes come up with very odd abbreviations) but you could correct your family if it bothers you.

I didn't particularly want my DCs names to be shortened either. That's why I chose names with one syllable.

My brother was called Francis, which was a family name. My mother (and all of the rest of us) always used his full name and didn’t shorten it.
One day someone came to the door and asked if Frank was in, to which she replied “I’m sorry you’ve come to the wrong house, nobody called Frank lives here.” It was only 15 minutes later, when my brother was saying that he thought his friend would have called to get him by now, that the penny dropped! She wasn’t happy though.

My sister never wanted my niece name shortened and insisted family didn't. We didn't mind it was her child. At school get friends all call her by a shortened name but family all call her by her full name

I have a name which is usually shortened, my mum just always corrected people if they tried, then I did too as I grew. Always been known as my full name.
Same with a few of my relatives too.

@RealMermaid

Honestly if I called a child a shortened version of their name and the mum told me off, I'd think they were being ridiculously precious about it. They're not calling him Steven, they're just shortening the name which is perfectly normal for babies and toddlers.

I agree with this tbh.

I have a William and family are welcome to call him Will, Bill, Billy, Liam, whatever as long as they aren’t doing it to take the piss.

He only answers to Will anyway so they’d learn soon enough when they don’t get the desired reaction!

@whattodo2019

i can't see how Lucas can be shorted to Luke?? i would be furious too

I think you are going to have to get used to it to be honest. I am surprised you didn't see this coming.