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Original poster

AIBU Seriously?!

57 replies

Couch2Potato · 14/05/2021 21:34

We're watching a movie, and my phone buzzes.
OH: "Who's that?"
Me: "Nobody - TikTok"
OH: "No, it was Whatsapp".
Me: "I don't have a notification from WA"
OH: "It was from Charlotte.."
Me: "Look scrolls through phone to show him, I don't have one."
OH: "I just saw it…"
Me: ".…"
OH: "Why are you being so defensive?"
Me: ".…"

We picked a film, that OH hadn't seen but I had.
After it had finished, I asked OHto put the TV on, as it was still sitting on Chomecast Homepage.
We were chatting for a little bit about my hair and I'm ask if we can put something on (as he'd put the footy on).
OH: "We just watched something you wanted to watch" …
End up getting into a row, so I saw I'm going to watch TV upstairs.
When I come out the loo upstairs, he's in bed.
Me: "are you watching TV up here?"
OH: "no"
Me: "ok.. I'm going to go downstairs"
OH: "don't you even want to be near me?"
Me: "Can't you accept my boundaries?"
OH: "So is that a no?"
Me: "No, I want to but I want some space."
OH: "So, you don't want to be around me… right now?"
Me: "No."

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BackforGood · 14/05/2021 21:36
Confused

AYBU about what ?

AnneLovesGilbert · 14/05/2021 21:37

Sounds pretty snippy and dysfunctional.

Workingfromhomeishell · 14/05/2021 21:38

Not sure what's going on but it doesn't sound fun for either of you . Good luck getting it sorted

Original poster
Couch2Potato · 14/05/2021 21:38

@BackforGood

Confused

AYBU about what ?

About wanting space away from this argument hahaha
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Todaythiscouldbe · 14/05/2021 21:38

What??

GroovyClementine · 14/05/2021 21:43

He's trying to pick a fight. Seems like any subject will serve his purpose.

I would not be surprised if an accusation of you losing interest in him because you are cheating is in your near future.

Take care.

sweetypop · 14/05/2021 21:44

The best thing to do is go and have your space and ignore him

user1493494961 · 14/05/2021 21:45

Well, that's a couple of minutes I won't get back.

Bluntness100 · 14/05/2021 21:46

It just sounds like a petty argument to me. You don’t seem to get on very well.

Jongleurterre · 14/05/2021 21:48

Turn your phone off if you are watching a film together, unless you are on call for some kind of emergency.

That’s about the only constructive thing I can add to your post.

arethereanyleftatall · 14/05/2021 21:50

And, once again, as I lie here on my sofa watching the exact film I want to watch, stuffing crisps in my mouth, not really caring if they don't quite make it to my mouth, for I'm also a bit drunk...once again, I'm reminded how blooming blissful it is to be single.

What is the point of bickering like that all the time?

FredaFox · 14/05/2021 21:50

What? Hmm

Merryoldgoat · 14/05/2021 21:53

He sounds painful.

Whatsthescoop · 14/05/2021 21:54

Ring your mum or dad , tell them you're ready to be picked up & ignore him at school on Monday

MIC2689 · 14/05/2021 21:54

Sounds like you both need a bit of space. Haha. No judgment. I blew up at OH today because he ate the last of the cheese.

MIC2689 · 14/05/2021 21:55

@arethereanyleftatall

And, once again, as I lie here on my sofa watching the exact film I want to watch, stuffing crisps in my mouth, not really caring if they don't quite make it to my mouth, for I'm also a bit drunk...once again, I'm reminded how blooming blissful it is to be single.

What is the point of bickering like that all the time?

That sounds absolutely amazing.
pictish · 14/05/2021 22:00

He’s picking a fight. Boring bastard. Go downstairs and avoid.

Original poster
Couch2Potato · 14/05/2021 22:03

I don't know what to do 😔
I don't think it's unreasonable for wanting space from an argument. Why is he making it out that I don't want to be around him ever? I'm so exhausted by bickering.

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Moonshine11 · 14/05/2021 22:06

I couldn’t be arsed

Original poster
Couch2Potato · 14/05/2021 22:08

@Moonshine11

I couldn’t be arsed
What would you do?

I know I need to go and move on. But how do you, when nothing major blows up? Its just small digging here and there.

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arethereanyleftatall · 14/05/2021 22:10

You can leave a relationship if you want to op, you don't need a reason.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 14/05/2021 22:10

But did Charlotte WhatsApp you? Why does he think she did if she didn’t? I MUST KNOW!!!

MIC2689 · 14/05/2021 22:10

Because you've had enough and he's feeling insecure so being extra needy and exhausting which makes you pull away more. Can you get away for a few nights? Although knowing me I'd have told him to fuck off and leave me alone.

MIC2689 · 14/05/2021 22:11

Seen your update. You don't need a reason. You can leave for no reason. That's your choice and your life.

Original poster
Couch2Potato · 14/05/2021 22:12

@StillCoughingandLaughing

But did Charlotte WhatsApp you? Why does he think she did if she didn’t? I MUST KNOW!!!
😂😂😂 Nope! Though I did have a message from my 90 year old Grandmother 10 mins later. He then ask got funny why I told him I had got a text from my Grandmother 😂
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