Selfies!!!.. have you ever taken a nice photo of yourself, but hesistated to post it because you felt like a gimp/poser?

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Sometimes it doesn't bother me, i suspect its because i look older and worse 😂🙈 im not a selfie queen, i like to take one when ive had my hair done, so about once a month,
I like some of the photos ive took but i keep thinking how do i justify posting this, rather than just wanting to upload a pic of myself, i know im massively over thinking this, has anyone felt this way regarding Instagram, selfies, Facebook etc??

@Whatshouldicallme

Selfies are cringy at any age. Yuck.

Using Yuck as grown ass woman is cringier.

@DrSbaitso *Because they're sharing a happy moment? Because they think they look nice and it's the modern day equivalent of wearing a dress that makes you feel pretty and asking "how do I look?"? Because it's social media and that's the point and it's a reasonable assumption that anyone who doesn't want to see your content would mute you? Because they are "average looking 40-somethings" and they're still allowed and want to be visible too? Because it might help someone like the OP who would like to do it but is frightened to because of sour, mean spirited people who think it's a moral issue and would make her a lesser human? Because they feel confident for the first time in a long time, eg after a divorce? Because they just want to?

Posting selfies isn't a moral issue. Sour and spiteful responses to something completely harmless might be. There's no reason for it and it makes me wonder what the objection is.*

Couldn't agree more! I don't know if it's funny or cringey that people act so superior for not having photos of themselves, that - shock, horror - they have taken!

I dropped all insecurity about selfies when I did a sort of private sociological survey of my social media and realised that people love to see people! My friends and family love seeing pictures of me and what I'm doing, and when I see pictures of them, I enjoy it much more and feel closer to them than if I just saw pictures of their holiday cottage etc. (Let's be honest, looking at landscapes from other people's holidays has never been that interesting!) I concluded that it was a connection thing, and I enjoy showing my friends + family my happy, smiling face just as much as I enjoy seeing theirs!

@Whatshouldicallme

Selfies are cringy at any age. Yuck.

Anyone using the word 'yuck' cannot judge someone for taking a selfie, surely

I was going to say i didn't plan this to be a bashing of anyone who selfies, i dont want to be totally invisible in life,
or a bashing of anyone who isn't good looking daring to post themselves on sm, its not just for lookers

although people ought to be grateful i grace them with my face obviously

I always feel very odd about taking and posting a selfie, like I shouldn't take a photo of myself, think it looks nice and then share it.

On the very rare occasion that I do so, I tend to receive lovely compliments, and as someone with self esteem on the floor it gives me a lovely boost. It's something I really over analyse before I post though.

When others post I only ever think something along the lines of that's a nice picture.

@daseychain yeah exactly its a nice feeling i wonder if its a British thing, that old fashioned thing you shouldn't appear vain,

I don’t really get selfies. I understand having a profile photo on Facebook or linked in or tinder or whatever (I don’t even have myself as my FB profile photo). So people know they’re on the right profile and can put a face to a name. But I don’t get the constant uploading of just photos of yourself. If it’s not so others can appreciate, and presumably publicly acknowledge, your beauty then what’s it for?

It's just nice! I love seeing my family's and friends' faces, along with whatever they have been up to. I like sharing my life and thoughts, though I'm sure they are pretty banal to outsiders. That's ok.

I dont really do selfies but having read this thread I suddenly really really want to.
Just swithering between a duck face or a misty-eyed distant smile.

I take selfies occasionally but have never posted them even if I like the way I look in them. I have posted the odd one of DH and I on holiday but that’s it.

Yesterday, on a FB group, someone posted a 'warning'/ 'please be careful coz this happened to me and bubz', then described a coincidental, random series of events leading to 'bubz' being taken to Emergency 'as a precaution'.

The girl posted a selfie of her and the 15month old, both sitting on the trolley in ED, him with thankfully no more the tiniest mark on his chin, but her- trout pout, quarter turned face, chin down, overlaid with a 'dewy' filter, complete with a slight sparkle.

She just couldn't help herself.

(Let's be honest, looking at landscapes from other people's holidays has never been that interesting!)

I think there’s a balance. Looking at endless photos of other people sitting on the beach, by the pool, in the bar, in some generic Med resort isn’t that interesting either.

I don’t take them anymore. When I was late teens/early 20s I probably took them every other day but I just don’t even think to now. Occasionally will try to take one of all of us if we’re out together but I don’t use social media anyway so it’s just for us and maybe our parents.

@Miljea yeah that perhaps sounds like some of the filters i have seen, although i suppose we shouldn't judge.

Never taken one, never have photos with people in them if it's a shot that doesn't need people ruining it! WHy on earth would anyone want to ruin a beautiful photo of, say, the Grand Canyon by having people in it!

I usually take them if on holiday, at a special event or out with friends. My reason for this even fiancé does it but if someone else takes pictures of me they take it from completely the wrong angle and makes me look like a short chubby hobbit