Selfies!!!.. have you ever taken a nice photo of yourself, but hesistated to post it because you felt like a gimp/poser?

[PasstheBucket89]

Sometimes it doesn't bother me, i suspect its because i look older and worse 😂🙈 im not a selfie queen, i like to take one when ive had my hair done, so about once a month,
I like some of the photos ive took but i keep thinking how do i justify posting this, rather than just wanting to upload a pic of myself, i know im massively over thinking this, has anyone felt this way regarding Instagram, selfies, Facebook etc??

[PasstheBucket89]

@Elouera cuz im stunning n lit 🔥🔥obviously,
not religiously every month, but roughly if i have a hair do that looks different, im not sure it's too much different than asking your mates approval really?

I don't massively judge selfies more like i feel there has to a purpose /event for it, i think someone else said that.

Someone else said something about being very few photos of themselves, i think thats on to something, im always behind the camera, taking pictures, never in front

[Yokey]

I try not to be a judgemental twat. Afterall, what does it matter to me if someone posts a lovely yet wholly unrealistic picture of themselves? But I can't help but wonder why bother when everyone knows it's attention-seeking vanity and you don't even look like that.

[MoiraNotRuby]

I like seeing peoples happy faces on my phone screen! I wish I had more photos of my mum, and in fact all my older relatives - would've been nice if they were alive when selfies, digital photos etc were a thing.

Long live the selfie.

[Undersnatch]

Selfies make me cringe a bit as well, I think is generational. Sometimes I get fed up there are no photos of me and my kids as DH doesn’t take them, so I do it with them occasionally. I don’t do Facebook so don’t have dilemmas about posting. Do what you like though!

[DrSbaitso]

I'm constantly amazed that grown ups with professional jobs post selfies.

I'm kind of jealous. I wish I could be so easily astonished. You must live in a permanent state of marvel and wonder.

[3Britnee]

@PasstheBucket89

Sometimes it doesn't bother me, i suspect its because i look older and worse 😂🙈 im not a selfie queen, i like to take one when ive had my hair done, so about once a month,
I like some of the photos ive took but i keep thinking how do i justify posting this, rather than just wanting to upload a pic of myself, i know im massively over thinking this, has anyone felt this way regarding Instagram, selfies, Facebook etc??

I couldn't give a toss what people think about what I post on my walls. If they don't like it, they can unfollow/unfriend me. And yes, I do post vain gratuitous selfies. It's my living timeline that I like looking back on 🤷‍♀️

[Davros]

I think you mean poseur

[Macncheeseballs]

No

[BabyPotato]

I also find selfies a bit cringey, but I'm old and have left SM years ago because I can't be arsed with it, so I'm not really the target audience for other people's selfies. I think if the selfie is of that person and something else, or if it has a point other than "look at me", then that's ok. Selfies just for the sake of it are just annoying, especially if they have been heavily edited or have those ridiculous reindeer filters on.

This is probably an age thing. I'm mid 30's and younger people are probably more into SM and selfies in general?

[PinkArt]

Average looking 40 something who isn't opposed to a selfie here! I'm not photogenic. If I take pics of myself though I can control things - more flattering angles, lighting etc and get rid of the not so great pics. I'm not spamming social media but it just means there are a few pics of me out there that I don't hate because they are chinny or shiny etc

[PasstheBucket89]

Sometimes filters are fun, though, i did a snapchat beard one of me, my kids and baby, as a bit of fun, or the man/woman one
Although i find it odd when people put them on babies, someone i know has the eyelash filter on most of her sons pictures. it's a bit

[DrSbaitso]

@Wearywithteens

“I wish I could be so easily astonished. You must live in a permanent state of marvel and wonder.”

Well quite often yes, but mostly about intelligent functioning adults who feel the need to do something which appears so weirdly immature and attention seeking. Teenagers, maybe, but arbitrary pouting face shots of average looking 40-somethings? Just why?

Because they're sharing a happy moment? Because they think they look nice and it's the modern day equivalent of wearing a dress that makes you feel pretty and asking "how do I look?"? Because it's social media and that's the point and it's a reasonable assumption that anyone who doesn't want to see your content would mute you? Because they are "average looking 40-somethings" and they're still allowed and want to be visible too? Because it might help someone like the OP who would like to do it but is frightened to because of sour, mean spirited people who think it's a moral issue and would make her a lesser human? Because they feel confident for the first time in a long time, eg after a divorce? Because they just want to?

Posting selfies isn't a moral issue. Sour and spiteful responses to something completely harmless might be. There's no reason for it and it makes me wonder what the objection is.

[DrSbaitso]

@PasstheBucket89

Sometimes filters are fun, though, i did a snapchat beard one of me, my kids and baby, as a bit of fun, or the man/woman one
Although i find it odd when people put them on babies, someone i know has the eyelash filter on most of her sons pictures. it's a bit

Well there you go. Just another example of the odd mindset that the way I use social media is the Right Way and everyone who does it differently is wrong.

You like the beard filter but don't like the eyelash one. Your friend obviously likes the eyelash filter but doesn't care for the beard one. Why is her choice but not yours? Some people think posting pics of your kids or using filters at all is objectionable.

I would like to see more ordinary looking and/or older women posting selfies. Helps make them more visible in a world that generally thinks they're not worth seeing.

[3Britnee]

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[LST]

@Wearywithteens

“I wish I could be so easily astonished. You must live in a permanent state of marvel and wonder.”

Well quite often yes, but mostly about intelligent functioning adults who feel the need to do something which appears so weirdly immature and attention seeking. Teenagers, maybe, but arbitrary pouting face shots of average looking 40-somethings? Just why?

Because sometimes people need a bit of a confidence boost?

[Whanganui]

I might do it as a joke to send to family, or if I was out & wanted to check my hair or face. I’m quite disturbed by some of these hideous selfies, even attractive women end up looking like Plug from The Beano.

[FrankButchersDickieBow]

it's the modern day equivalent of wearing a dress that makes you feel pretty and asking "how do I look?"

People don't do that. Really.

The selfie thing has passed me by. I don't do SM as its pretty toxic. I really feel for teenagers these days. I am early 40s and so glad I had my teenage years SM free.

Dd who isn13bthis year, is luckily not into selfiesnetc. (Yet, I hasten ro add), but her pers seem obsessed and look old beyond their years.

I do think its narcissistic but that's only my opinion. People can seek validation any way they need. No skin off my nose.

[DrSbaitso]

What is the MN obsession with "attention seeking"? There's nothing wrong with wanting to be seen from time to time. You don't have to give it your attention if you don't want to.

And then we wonder why women "become invisible"...

[Whatshouldicallme]

Selfies are cringy at any age. Yuck.

[DrSbaitso]

People don't do that. Really.

They do. Really.

It's very normal to ask "how do I look" when you're dolled up. If you're actively avoiding things that might remind you of it and you morally object to it as "narcissistic", then I can see why you won't have seen it, but it happens. And it really is OK.

[FrankButchersDickieBow]

Of course it's nice to get a compliment, lovely when people tell you you look great. What a boost!! Who doesn't love that. But obviously fishing for compliments! No. Not many people REALLY do that.

[AccidentallyOnPurpose]

@StoneofDestiny

God knows why people post selfie's - or even take selfies.
Don't you know what you look like already?
Do you think everybody wants your picture?

Bizarre

Because otherwise for years I wouldn't have had any pics of me or of me and my daughter , or pics of me and OH or the 3 of us together. And sometimes I actually like how I look and I want to "keep" it, sue me. Some I post, the majority of them I don't.

[SallyLovesCheese]

I'm 40 and I take selfies if I'm out and about somewhere special. I've done it for years. I like to have a reminder of myself in that place, so on holiday or visiting a famous landmark or something.

I also take selfies to post on my company's SM accounts; I'm self-employed so I think it helps get across my personality which is important (I run parent-and-toddler groups).

I don't really use filters, though, and certainly not bunny ears! I'm not very good looking so it's not about pouting and people saying I look nice, it's to tell the story of my business and what I'm doing, marketing.

[GiveIrelandBackToTheIrish]

I like to see people's happy selfies