My DP will ask me for help, advice or opinions on things, which I give as its asked for, only for me to find he then double checks with other people, mostly men tbh, before he'll accept my advice or take on board my opinion.
This seems to be happening more and more. And also with things I point out in general.
One example recently was there was an issue in his car where sometimes the stereo wouldn't work. I told him I'd had issues with the stereo. He dosent use the stereo much so perhaps he didn't notice it playing up. We were then in car together and the stereo started playing up, so I said again, casually, you may need to get it looked at, maybe its just a loose wire or something. He agrees, but doesn't do anything.
Fast forward 2 weeks and his adult son borrows the car and stereo plays up. That afternoon DP comes home and tells me, DS says theres a problem with the stereo so I booked the car in tomorrow, as need to get that sorted.
That is just one example, and I know it sounds so insignificant, but its that kind of scenario which happens all the bloody time.
Most recent one, which has really pissed me off is he bought a little holiday home a while ago and it needs loads of work. I'm decent at painting (as used to do it for a living quite a while back) and a few bits and pieces and I offered to help him paint, clean, fill some holes etc. He says brilliant, thats great.
3 days later he says he has called Bob to come and help him with the painting and filling holes. Bob hasn't painted a wall in his life.
He is still assuming I will be helping (cleaning? as thats whats left), but am I right to be insulted that I offered my help and he's now gone and asked fucking Bob to do the exact thing I said I could help him with?
So on this occasion, AIBU to just say, I see you have Bob helping you now, so I won't be helping AT ALL?
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bookworm20 · 13/05/2021 14:45
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