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To think winning the lottery would solve all my problems

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talkischeap11 · 13/05/2021 10:05

I’m pretty much permanently stressed these days and 95% of that is down to money. The need to earn money takes up a lot of hours in the week, which leaves me little time to sort everything else, like the neverending cooking, cleaning, chores and life admin, not to mention spending less time with my DC than I would like. If I could win a couple of million on the lottery all that stress would instantly disappear and life would be so very easy compared to now.

Of course it’s never going to happen, but a woman can dream!

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Seeyou · 13/05/2021 10:09

Me too. Then I could get rid of my cheater DH , not stress about my future and help my DCs . Would do wonders for my mental well being. Must go buy a ticket. Smile

readingismycardio · 13/05/2021 10:13

Me 2. I don't even buy tickets so the chances are pretty low, I'd say Grin i have 99 problems and 90 could totally be fixed by throwing money at them

imsoinmyhead · 13/05/2021 10:13

I think about this daily. I am so stressed by work all the time. I am constantly trying to multitask and it's exhausting. I constantly fantasise about winning the lottery so I could stick two fingers up to my job and just spend the days enjoying myself.

Burnt0utMum · 13/05/2021 10:13

Same here, I'd delight in quitting work and never looking back. Just enjoying life and quality family time, exploring different countries, just fun all the time.

askingrandomsonlinemighthelp · 13/05/2021 10:14

A lot of my problems could be sorted with money. Perhaps all of them.

Ostara212 · 13/05/2021 10:16

@readingismycardio

Me 2. I don't even buy tickets so the chances are pretty low, I'd say Grin i have 99 problems and 90 could totally be fixed by throwing money at them
So much this.
ClarkeGriffin · 13/05/2021 10:19

@Seeyou

Me too. Then I could get rid of my cheater DH , not stress about my future and help my DCs . Would do wonders for my mental well being. Must go buy a ticket. Smile
You'd have to share the money though, as you're married. Sad
GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 13/05/2021 10:19

Ha ha! I’m exactly the same!

I wouldn’t even stop working but it would be lovely to have that money behind you so you didn’t have to worry.

I don’t think I’d change my life that hugely, but the security for me and my children would be amazing.

user648482729 · 13/05/2021 10:21

I feel like this but I also feel quite lucky that my problems could be solved by money as there’s lots of problems that can’t - poor physical health, bad relationships, mental health problems, bereavements etc.
I don’t even want a lot of money, If I could just win enough to pay off my mortgage than I’d be happy as the spare money that would bring would make life a lot easier.

MintyCedric · 13/05/2021 10:21

Yep...a nice chunk of money would make my life about 1000% better.

And if anyone up there is listening I promise I'd do lots of good stuff with the excess if you send me a rollover on the Euromillions!

MargateSands · 13/05/2021 10:22

Well, they do say money doesn’t make you happy. Which is, of course, bollocks. Money gives you freedom to do the things that are life enhancing - good holidays, nice house, not work / work less, see family more, pay for a cleaner, nice car, first class air travel, good food and drink. It also removes a significant source of stress from your life (i.e. worrying about money). It’s not a total panacea - you can still be rich and miserable and poor and fulfilled. However, I’d suggest it’s easier to live the life you want if you’re loaded.

merrynelly · 13/05/2021 10:24

Research shows that an income of up to approx £70k (I think it might have been in dollars) improves happiness levels. After that it doesn't improve happiness at all. Also there are many people who have won the lottery, and gone on to say they wish they hadn't and it ruined their lives. Also there are many rich people who go on to end their life which proves money doesn't solve many many problems.

That being said, I sympathise with your post and understand where you're coming from

MargateSands · 13/05/2021 10:26

@user648482729

I feel like this but I also feel quite lucky that my problems could be solved by money as there’s lots of problems that can’t - poor physical health, bad relationships, mental health problems, bereavements etc. I don’t even want a lot of money, If I could just win enough to pay off my mortgage than I’d be happy as the spare money that would bring would make life a lot easier.
I take your point about money not solving everything - clearly it can’t bring someone back to life or cure a mental health issue. However, if you have a mental health issue and have a few million in the bank, it means you have immediate access to treatment, counsellors and therapy that you wouldn’t have otherwise. The same with poor relationships - having money behind you gives you far more options, access to high quality legal advice, etc.
pondfrog · 13/05/2021 10:26

You'd have to share the money though, as you're married

Perhaps not. There was a case of a couple who divorced and the wife had won a fair sum on the lottery and the judge decided it did NOT count as a family asset and she got to keep the money. She had put some money into their house, so that counted as a family asset to be shared, but not the rest of it. She had bought the ticket with her own money.

I spend FAR too long thinking about all this. Grin

However, I’d suggest it’s easier to live the life you want if you’re loaded 100% this. I could afford to get rid of H, and pursue the vocation I want.

Pootles34 · 13/05/2021 10:26

Yes you're completely right. I'm aware people often fall out with others over money - but you can tell them to fuck off, you can't tell the debt collectors to fuck off can you? It would give you such freedom.

You could do anything! You could go and live in Borneo with the Orangutans, or have a house boat and wear dungarees all day. I could just garden forever... It would be marvellous.

MintyCedric · 13/05/2021 10:33

@merrynelly

I think it depends what your aspirations are and what you'd like to do with the money.

I'd love to have a nicer house custom built right next to the beach and find a better solution to my elderly parents care needs.

I've then got two amazing best friends I could easily spent £500k helping out (buying one a house and clearing the other's mortgage)

Trust fund for DD and investing enough for my future.

After that I'd love to fund some improvements at DDs school, and if I had a really stupid win, set up a refuge for women escaping abuse with onsite services eg legal advice, counselling, crèche, education, employment and housing advice.

I'd have more pets, travel when it's possible again and have plenty of hobbies to keep me occupied.

I think if you're going to be flash and invite comment and risk of begging letters etc, or if you're someone without hobbies and interests who relies on work for stimulation/company, you might well come unstuck, and of course it can't necessarily help with relationships or health, but I think I could definitely with an obscene amount of money!

FTEngineerM · 13/05/2021 10:36

You'd have to share the money though, as you're married. sad

I’d rather have half of a lotto win than no lotto win..

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talkischeap11 · 13/05/2021 10:42

Well, they do say money doesn’t make you happy. Which is, of course, bollocks. Money gives you freedom to do the things that are life enhancing - good holidays, nice house, not work / work less, see family more, pay for a cleaner, nice car, first class air travel, good food and drink. It also removes a significant source of stress from your life (i.e. worrying about money). It’s not a total panacea - you can still be rich and miserable and poor and fulfilled. However, I’d suggest it’s easier to live the life you want if you’re loaded.

Totally agree with this.

Also, I don’t understand people who say that if they gave up their job due to a lottery win they’d be bored. How could you possibly be bored with loads of money in the bank and a whole world to explore?

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talkischeap11 · 13/05/2021 10:43

To have so many stresses just lifted in an instant must be the most wonderful feeling!

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FizzyPink · 13/05/2021 10:47

Me too. We spend all our time working right now in the race to build up a house deposit and the rest of the time worrying that by the time we’re ready to buy next year we’ll have been priced even further out.
We both earn high salaries and were already looking to buy further out away from friends and family but if house prices keep increasing as they have over the last year, we’ll have to start looking even further away.

WowIlikereallyhateyou · 13/05/2021 10:49

Mo money, mo problems, never were there truer words. The problems are just different ones!

PicsInRed · 13/05/2021 10:52

It's a myth that money is the root of all evil.

The LACK of money, and consequent desperation to obtain and hold on to money, is the root of all evil.

Money pays for the solving of many problems.

ComtesseDeSpair · 13/05/2021 10:56

Also, I don’t understand people who say that if they gave up their job due to a lottery win they’d be bored. How could you possibly be bored with loads of money in the bank and a whole world to explore?

I can totally understand how, to be fair. A good friend took a year out of her career, following a very large redundancy payout and having been stressed and burnt out for years. She said the first month was wonderful: she got loads of sleep and rest, did a load of little tasks she’d kept meaning to do but never had the time for, enjoyed doing leisurely stuff. She loved the spontaneity of being able to travel to visit a friend for a few days’ break. She enjoyed the parts where she was on holiday. But after a while, she ran out of things to do because who wants to take another holiday alone? It’s all very well having the whole day to yourself, but what do you do for days on end when all your friends are at work? Going to stay with people is lovely; but they actually don’t want you to rock up at their house all the time! And if you have DC, you’re limited by schooling and their social lives – you can’t just jet off travelling the world all year and pleasing yourself, and how do you fill the days then?

Mabelface · 13/05/2021 10:58

The thought of not having to work is an amazing one. I'd find loads to do. I'd buy the little house I rent and do it up how I wanted and set my family up with houses. It'd be awesome.

TealSapphire · 13/05/2021 10:59

Yep I get the daily stress about money and bloody hate it.

I'm always behind on bills, then late fees get added and that's more money to pay that I just don't have. It's a vicious cycle.