Aibu in giving craft stuff and board game as birthday gift?

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Our dd is turning 7 at the end of the month. A friend of mine asked today what we were getting her for gifts and when told said that it wasn't proper birthday gift but stuff that we as parents are obliged to get her as daily stuff.
For context not at stealth post and she gets very little from other due to small extended family.
But we have bought her
Chess board game
A huge box from djeco with different kinds of pencils crayons ect
Other craft stuff
A book

Am I missing something that this is not ok birthday gift?

No your not missing anything!

Your friend is bonkers and was being rude.

Ignore and enjoy giving your DD a lovely birthday. And lose the friend....

*you’re

Your friend is setting herself or hisself up to have an entitled or spoilt child, assuming that they are a parent with a child of a similar age.

I'd have loved that as a child and to be honest I'd still love it.

What does your friend think she should be getting? A brand new shiny bike or something?

I don’t see anything at all wrong with what you’re buying/bought.

Lovely presents wish my parents had been so thoughtful I got crap I wasn’t interested in.

Me and DH are going to stick to the 5 gift rule for DD. It’s something they want, need, to read, to wear and something handmade. That’ll be it!

Those were my dream presents as a kid! (Still are as an adult tbh)

Do you think your dd will like it? Surely that's all that matters? We have lots of (and lots!)crafty stuff and I tend to buy and replace it as and when it's needed so we probably wouldn't get craft things as a gift but it's absolutely fine. We do get both of our dc board games as presents though, I'd probably only get them as an everyday thing if I found one cheap in a charity shop.

My DD (same age) would love that selection of gifts so YANBU! Your friend seems nuts - what kind of thing would she suggest?!

@SGChome20

What does your friend think she should be getting? A brand new shiny bike or something?

I don’t see anything at all wrong with what you’re buying/bought.

No but toys like barbie Lego dolls ect. She thinks board games books and craft stuff isn't real gifts.. She has a daughter that's the same age as ours

Great gifts. Exactly the sort of things we get our DCs, i.e things they will use!

The only thing that matters is if your daughter will love those gifts. Sod your mate.

If you swap the chess for an ant farm, it's what my soon to be 7 year old is getting for theirs.

That’s the same as my 7 year old Dd got for her birthday.
Craft and science stuff, a book and a board game.
It’s more than enough and all things they actually are into

Those are lovely gifts, maybe get her something small that is frivolous and fun as well

I'd have been very happy with that! I'd have hated effing Barbie /Lego..

Your friend was being cloth eared and rude... (of course all children are the same )

Surely you know what your daughter and what she likes...

@InDubiousBattle

Do you think your dd will like it? Surely that's all that matters? We have lots of (and lots!)crafty stuff and I tend to buy and replace it as and when it's needed so we probably wouldn't get craft things as a gift but it's absolutely fine. We do get both of our dc board games as presents though, I'd probably only get them as an everyday thing if I found one cheap in a charity shop.

Yes I do. She has taken a real interest in chess at school where they play it in math and in general spends many hours drawing at home. We have ofc craft stuff that we buy through out the year but that's shared between the girls. The craft we bought for gifts are a bit better quality and is suppose to be for her only.

She thinks board games books and craft stuff isn't real gifts..

It may be for her. These things are very subjective. Some people like board games, and let's nkt kid ourselves many are not cheap, and crafts so it's actually a perfect present! Like books for example. I would love a board game😁 Even as a child.

Kids don't need loads of stuff. Your friend is being obnoxious.

Agree that she was quite rude about it actually

Sounds like a lovely array of gifts. My daughter just turned 7 and she couldn't think of a main present this year so she got lots of "bits" instead including a lot of craft stuff which she loves. She was delighted.

We don't buy our kids lots of treats throughout the year, though we are generous at Christmas and birthdays (it doesn't seem special otherwise) hence the delight at new craft stuff. If we bought that stuff every month it wouldn't be special/exciting. If they NEED something then of course that is different and we will get it.

When I ask what my niece would like for gifts, "craft supplies" is always on the list. It's a perfectly good gift, from anyone, especially if your daughter enjoys crafts.

And of course board games are wonderful gifts, too! Your friend is weird. Does she perhaps not like board games and crafts, herself (or didn't as a child)?

@SGChome20

Me and DH are going to stick to the 5 gift rule for DD. It’s something they want, need, to read, to wear and something handmade. That’ll be it!

Oh I've never heard of this, I love it!

OP I thought you were going to say school shoes and a loaf of bread or something 😂 what you've got sounds lovely.

Your friend is being foolish.

She has probably succumbed to pressure on social media to give a mountain of gifts including something big like a bike. But most of those gifts go to waste - you are absolutely right to buy stuff your DD will use and enjoy.