Does posting on here ever make you feel like a total societal misfit?

[Socialpariahs]

Hi
NC for this.

I have posted on here a few times what I thought were reasonable questions about things. My god, I got flamed severely on most occasions. Called all sorts of names etc etc.

Now I work in healthcare dealing with patients daily. Without being big-headed, I am well-liked and I feel I have normal opinions about things.

Does posting on here ever question your place in life/society?

[longwayoff]

OP you are taking things too seriously. This is mumsnet, not real life, and it doesn't really matter what a lot of strangers think of your comments. If you feel it does then try to remember it's not personal, its just a passing moment. Let it go.

[Phineyj]

I am a bit scared of the teacher section. Only one type of teacher is welcome there. In RL I've had no issue getting on with all sorts of teaching colleagues. But I find Mumsnet is much more enjoyable if you pretend/assume every other poster is trying out a plot for a novel.or a soap, to see if it flies.

[AcornCups]

It’s an anonymous forum.
I quite like how people are very honest because of that but everything has a ladle of salt on for me and not just a pinch.

[Socialpariahs]

@chocolateorangeinhaler

How do you know your well liked and have normal opinions? That's a very narcissistic thing to say.

OMG , flamed on a post about flaming

[Dawnchoruses]

I think @chocolateorangeinhaler is just being a cheeky little jester

[AlfonsoTheTerrible]

No. It just confirms that there is a huge gulf between autists (I am one) and neurotypicals.

For example, there are numerous threads about judging people / being judged by total strangers. Hunh? I look at people, see where they are so I don't bump into them (I also have dyspraxia so I need to pay attention to my surroundings) and that's that.

Or whining about tiny matters, like a cashier in a supermarket giving them an odd look. Why not just shrug your shoulders and get on with your day?

[flapjackfairy]

@ Fyredraca
Oh you have made me feel better as well. Nice not to be the only one

[vivainsomnia]

My normal life is nothing like the majority of posters on here.

If my OH and I have arguments and sometimes shout at each other, there might even have been a name calling in the past. We don’t consider we are in an abusive relationship and are very happy together.

I don’t have my dog on the lead all the time and allow her to roam free, approach other dogs and I’ve never had a bad experience in the 3 years of my dogs life.

My kids have not been bullied and never been accused of it. They’ve gone through school drama free.

I don’t hate any political persona, don’t think the NHS is fantastic nor dreadful. I don’t hate landlords nor do I believe they are all blameless. I am not racist, never been accused of being so, and am adamant that I treat everyone equally but would probably be accused of being racist here.

I definitely live in another world where I too am well liked and have many friends of all background age and colour.

[LindyLou2020]

@chocolateorangeinhaler

How do you know your well liked and have normal opinions? That's a very narcissistic thing to say.

A perfect example of the OP's point! 😂😂😂

[motherloaded]

I think the worst posters are funny!

You have to have terrible issues to express some of the views on here, so I wouldn't take them personally.

I also strongly suspect that a lot of posters are very meek, shy and unsuccessful in real life, and use the forum to release their anger and bitterness. And boy, there are some VERY angry posters on here! It's frightening.

Some posters are also clearly on a wind-up, and want drama.

At most, I am grateful to live where I live and be on a different planet from some people on here!

[LindaEllen]

I am a stepmother, therefore of course I am a demon misfit who can only live to serve my stepson and not have a single other purpose in life.

YANBU.

[saraclara]

On the contrary, many of the posts on mumsnet reassure me that I'm really normal compared to some people out there!

[Mankyfruitbowl]

I own two toilet brushes and a waterfall cardigan. If I met me online and this was all I had to go on, I'd think I was a terrible person

[MizMoonshine]

Thus place is full of online extremists.
They blow off steam here and exaggerate things for their own entertainment.
You're not a misfit. This is just a toxic environment sometimes.

[motherloaded]

You should be on MN the way you read the DM: purely for entertainment and believe 10% of what is written.

For anything serious, at most use MN to give you ideas of what and where to research.

[SuddenArborealStop]

I sometimes think about posting for advice and then think about how I'd tie myself in knots trying to get all the information into the OP that was relevant so as not to drip feed, but not irrelevant so I don't get accused of hatred for mentioning someone's age or accent or hair colour ...

It's a mine field and usually not worth it if you're feeling vulnerable. Sometimes I try to guess what replies I would get and then reject them in my head so that's useful in coming to my own conclusion and not relying on Internet strangers to help.

[MindtheBelleek]

@chocolateorangeinhaler

How do you know your well liked and have normal opinions? That's a very narcissistic thing to say.

[motherloaded]

If you post, play MN bingo with the worst answers. Take the real and helpful answers seriously, and laugh at the ridiculous and angry ones.

[JudgeJ]

@Socialpariahs

Hi
NC for this.

I have posted on here a few times what I thought were reasonable questions about things. My god, I got flamed severely on most occasions. Called all sorts of names etc etc.

Now I work in healthcare dealing with patients daily. Without being big-headed, I am well-liked and I feel I have normal opinions about things.

Does posting on here ever question your place in life/society?

I think that the problem is that unless you stick to 'the script' you'll get jumped on! If you as the most innocent, genuine question there'll be the key-board warriors up in arms. It can be quite fun!

[Frustratedbeyondbelief]

Yep - I'm a complete weirdo. With little in common with what seems 'the norm' on here. I read to keep up on just how peculiar I am.
Some of my odd behaviour..

When the door is knocked . I open it.
I like my neighbours.
I love my family and in laws.
I look forward to my parents /brothers/sIL visiting.
When children were young I would thrust a baby into relatives arms in order to go out/sleep.
My mother and MIL came round the moment babies were home from hospital. They were kind and fantastic. In EVERY way.
I love my husbands mother
DH loves mine. --
I do not leave /demand divorce every time DH and I have a row.
Ex DH and I are great friends and have never once argued about the kids/time with the kids.
DSC have never had their own bedroom at ours.
I took my kids on holiday abroad without the DSC. Sometimes DH joined us.
Dsc appear to have escaped emotional trauma despite previous 2 points. (2 dc/2 dsc currently flatshare in London) .

I know - mad ! We also only change our bed sheets when we feel like it. We have no schedule... I'll get my coat...

[Fingersstuckwithsuperglue]

Oh god - I’ve offered alternative advice to leaving the bastard (the op clearly didn’t want to) and got absolutely flamed! There’s no nuance so for the most part I just lurk now

[JudgeJ]

@Mankyfruitbowl

I own two toilet brushes and a waterfall cardigan. If I met me online and this was all I had to go on, I'd think I was a terrible person

I own three of the horrors and, even worse, my babies slept in their own rooms from day 1 at home! I'll come quietly yr'honour.

[Vargas]

I am sometimes chatting with friends and they say something about their dcs or their dps and I think 'OMG they would get torn apart on MN for saying that' and then I laugh and realise yet again that MN is not the real world.

[motherloaded]

I think the unpleasant posts are the most genuine ones.

I disagree.

Unpleasant people are just unhappy. The more horrible the poster, the shittier their life. Happy people are not confrontational and horrible.
Same thing in real life.