Would you be offended if bf called you

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The pet name he had for his ex partner .. a relationship of years that ended two years ago?
He was pissed.
I slip up verbally too sometime
I ignored it at that time. Should I address it or am I being unreasonable ?

What was it? Generic like babe or something more unusual?

Depends what the name is tbh

Depends what it is.

No it was a specific name ... for example a character from a cartoon .
He calls me many pet names but this one was specific to them and he never called me that before now.
Would you call him out on that?

Along the lines of ' Minnie' from Mickey Mouse etc

Tell him not to call you that in future. It's lazy of him.

Everything is offensive if you try hard enough. In fact, some people enjoy being offended and calling out the 'offender'.

It was a one off and he was drunk so presumably a mistake rather than an intention of his to use it again in future.

I would leave it for now. Only mention it if he does it again. Hopefully he will be more careful next time. I am sure it is easily done.

This always stings but everyone slips up now and then, it's muscle memory.

As an aside, how come you even know what his pet name for her was?

Would it be a big deal to you ?
For some reason I'm
Not hugely offended but mildly
Miffed . He was pissed and hadn't slept. Not excusing but that's the way it was .

I saw a gift that she gave to him from during their relationship and it was signed by her and her pet name .

I’ve said this on here before but my horrible ex husband used to sing me a song that was his ex wife’s name and substitute my name.

So for example Sweet Caroline sung as Sweet Angela, I’m Angela and his ex wife’s name is Caroline.

Now THAT’S lazy.

I'd be furious but then I'd rationalise it.

Should I say something or leave it be now ?
I know he would never say it intentionally ...

Wouldnt bother me.

I’ve been with my DH for years but I called him my ex’s name about 6 months ago and I still don’t know why I did it. I split with my ex a very long time ago and haven’t spoken to or really thought about him since. I was half asleep one morning when the DC came into our room to wake us up and I turned and said ‘ex’s name time to get up’. My DH was really angry and I was absolutely mortified. Their names both begin with the same letter and I was half asleep, that’s all I can put it down to really. I apologised profusely, thankfully he forgave me. I’d hate it if he did that to me! I still don’t know why I did it. The brain is a strange organ, try to go easy on him.

You seem pretty determined to be offended and make a big deal of it, so go for it

My ex was abusive and we split eight years ago. For some unknown reason I nearly called my wonderful bf of seven months (but known him for two years) by my ex's name. Getting a name wrong can be meaningless.

No point causing trouble when there isn't any already. Maybe if it happens again?

I’d let it go tbh

Leave it be. He was drunk, it’s not an issue.

Ok that's great advice . I'll
Leave it be. Hopefully it was a drunk one off. I'm not averse to the odd slip up either and it didn't bother him .

I wouldn't be offended. I'd probably tease him mercilessly and call him by my ex partners name for at least a week. Never miss an opportunity to take the piss. :-D

I slip up verbally too sometime

Does he mention it to you when you do? 🤷‍♀️

No...